On Tue, Jun 2, 2009 at 10:31 PM, Dr. John Marshall Johnson <[email protected]> wrote: > On Mon, Jun 1, 2009 at 7:04 AM, . <[email protected]> wrote: > >> I too know a few nice men who toe the line out of fear. >> > But how long wiil they toe the line ?
Quoting out-of-context tends to garble the conversation with unintended tangents but that is de riguer on any list /conversation so i can explain what i meant by "toe the line" -- The mere existence of the law is of no use unless it is implemented via a proper support system as here[0], which is sorely lacking in India. Here, some men (i've known) would not hesitate to abuse (physical, mental, verbal, et al) their wives simply because they CAN and WILL get away with it, despite the law. That does not imply that ALL wives will automatically misuse the law or that abuse is absent in developed nations. Its extremely relative and subjective so sweeping generalizations dont help and i'll try to use another example here: The first time i travelled by bus in chennai, i saw half the bus reserved for women and if the side was full and you sat on the men's side and a man happened to be sitting there he would get up in a hurry. I was most offended by the unequal treatment. It didnt seem special at all. Back home, BEST (in Mumbai) was more 'equal' as we fought, scratched, pulled, elbowed and squeezed our way into a space which didnt exist. Then I grew up and realised that all men are not chivalrous enough and would not hesitate to grab the seat you just offered to a pregnant lady or an aged person. BEST buses now have 3 rows for women, two for aged and disabled people and yet perfectly healthy young men will argue if 60 or 65 years defines a senior citizen. Most are smart to not ask a woman if she is one. The point is, most (not all) folks have a skewed sense of reality, entitlement, equality, etc... and i dont know why that is but it is. [0] http://ostraya.livejournal.com/283571.html > What do my friends do, they both have been married for less than a year ? tbh, i dont know :) -- .
