Very sweet! In my case, it took much less time. I had an arranged marriage
of the old school where we were given all of three minutes to decide if we
were going to hang around together for the rest of our lives. I was 26 and
she was a few weeks short of her 21st birthday. We were incredibly childish
and, very uncharacteristically for me, even though I say so myself, I would
take every opportunity to be sarcastic to her, just like that. No
provocation. On her part she would go into what I used to call 'Meena
Kumari mode' which involved lots of silent tears and a big sad face, which
would instantly send me into severe guilt trips. After about a year of
this, I had a bike accident. Nothing serious, but my shoulder was hurt
badly and my right arm was put into a sling. In very hindi movie style, she
would feed me (and *blush* bathe me) and soon, one thing having led to
another, we grew very intimate, in a very non physical way too. (And if any
one ever breathes a word of this to my wife, I will come back as a
poltergeist and haunt you forever)

Somewhere along the way, we began having a sort of
multiple-personality-disorder of relationships. For most of the time, she
would be this stern,
have-you-done-this-you-were-supposed-to-have-done-it-last-evening
schoolmarm and suddenly without warning she'd turn into this guilty school
girl confessing to having bought a handbag despite already having bought
two earlier that month. I discovered gradually that I cared for her
laughter and year after year, my desire to see her smile increased
steadily. I'm now at a stage where I am restless if she's not around, even
though I don't have much to say when she is. I'm not an authority on love
and I probably wouldn't recognize it if you brought it to me on a plate
with watercress around it, but I suspect this could be it, at least partly.

I should probably hit the discard this draft button instead of the send
button that I'm about to nudge, but I'm a few excellent whiskies down so


On 1 July 2014 19:10, Udhay Shankar N <[email protected]> wrote:

> Fascinating, and sweet read. I'd be most interested in comments and perhaps
> anecdotes from silklisters' experience.
>
> Udhay
>
>
> http://m.vogue.com/magazine/article/arranged-marriage-that-ended-happily-ever-after-30-years-later/#1&src=longreads
>
> --
> ((Udhay Shankar N))  ((via phone))
>



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