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IMO, Unfortunately our society does not look at
cheating as a crime like in Turkey. A friend of mine is form there and if
a wife is caught cheating he told me that you can do away with her, even as far
as killing her and the law will look the other way.
I am not saying always but if a wife belittles her
husband and does not want to have sex with him one would have to wonder
why. Obviouslly it was not like that when they first got married so what
brought the changes about? That still does not give him the right to to
cheat. IF that is what he feels he needs to do then he should at least
divorce her. I am not for divorce but sometimes it is for the
best.
I never belive that it is the womans fault if he
cheats. He has come to a situation where he needed to make a life changing
decision. He basically knew what he would gain and what he would
lose. The woman is not the guilty party in the affair. She took part
in it but the man had to say it was okay to do it.
I seriouslly believe and live by the example of do
not put yourself into any relationship that might tempt, corrupt, or make you
feel that what you have is less important then when you first got
it.
AJ
----- Original Message -----
Sent: Friday, September 26, 2003 7:02
AM
Subject: Re: [Sndbox] Pick one
(immorality glamorized)
Ex. 1 I don't think the ovation was because he cheated on
his wife. It was because,
like Huggy said, "They are kids and they think of
him as a basketball player."
Now I can fully understand why having Kobe
even appear on that show after
what had just happened and him getting a
standing "O" would make you
sick.... It does me too, but for me it is
because Kobe is a role model and he
did something very "unrolemodel
like."
Ex. 2 I think the blame gets thrown around by everyone depending
on who you
talk to... I see your point, but consider this one.
Would a wife that continually belittles her husband and doesn't even
care to
have sex with him have *any* accountabillity in the
affair?
Do women that, for what ever reason, "want what they can't
have" and go after
another woman's husband have *anything* do with the
affair?
OR.... when a man cheats he is the sole guilty party because
the actions of
women do not matter and the man is the only one who can be
assigned guilt?
On Thursday, September 25, 2003, at 11:46
AM, [EMAIL PROTECTED] wrote:
In
a message dated 9/25/2003 6:36:57 AM Eastern Daylight Time,
[EMAIL PROTECTED] writes:
>1how
the media and most people glamorize unmoralistic men who cheat
on
>their wives
I don't think that they do. I guess I
would need some convincing
of
that.
example
1 kobe bryant at an award show after he
admitted to adultery he got a standing ovation. the media is
trying to crucify the victim.
example 2 in almost every
case of adultery with the husband being the cheater who gets the
blame? the other woman she had to have seduced him
etc.
i think it all ties in to the fact that everyone has to shift
responsibility to other people
i was watching big brother 4 last
night and the jury got to see the final twos comments about them which were
all nasty and horrible. when they asked these girls about that they replied
they were just mad because they were jealous and they shifted the blame back
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