I *think* she's breathing on her own.  The sticking point for me is that her
husband says she wouldn't want to live like she's living.  I tend to think
he would be the one to know.  It's not as if he's trying to knock her off
for insurance money, she's been this way for over a decade.  Maybe he is
tired of seeing his wife suffer in a state of limbo.

It's exactly why everyone should have a DNR order on file if they are
opposed to being artificially kept alive.  For me I only want a feeding tube
if it is a temporary measure, or if I'm sentient.  You know if I can talk
and carry on my life but can't swallow for instance.  I don't want any kind
of artificial respiration unless again it is a temporary measure. 


Charles Mims
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-----Original Message-----
From: [EMAIL PROTECTED] [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]
On Behalf Of Jen --
Sent: Wednesday, October 15, 2003 3:22 PM
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Subject: Re: [Sndbox] Right to Die

Is she on breathing machines or she is breathing on her own ?

If she is honestly comotose as well as brain dead, removing the feeding tube
is not going to be painful for her.

Im not being judgemental because I dont know the circumstances, but I cant
imagine wanting to keep a person comotose for 13 years. That doesnt help
anyone in the situation. Although, I do agree with Charles, other members of
the family should not be able to come in and fight the decision that the
next of kin has made. He/she must have her reasoning.

I have seen two people a few years ago die basicly after they became brain
dead. In one of those situations I was the decision maker and in one I
wasnt. But that decision isnt easy and noone should be *made* to change
their mind because someone else doesnt agree.

JMO.

Jen --
----- Original Message -----
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Sent: Wednesday, October 15, 2003 9:05 AM
Subject: RE: [Sndbox] Right to Die


> Actually, the hospice folks here swear that removing the tube is 
> actually more peaceful for the patient than other methods.  Their body 
> shuts down
and
> goes to sleep.
>
>
> Charles Mims
> http://www.the-sandbox.org
>
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: [EMAIL PROTECTED]
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> On Behalf Of Laurie
> Sent: Wednesday, October 15, 2003 11:38 AM
> To: The Sandbox Discussion List
> Subject: RE: [Sndbox] Right to Die
>
> I have a problem with just stopping the feeding tube.
> That is starving her to death...nope...can't go with that..but if she 
> is braindead, or in a permanent vegitative state, I can see increasing 
> pain meds and ending her life that way....no suffering. In my opinion,
starvation
> is painful and suffering occurs.
>
> Laurie
> --- David <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote:
> > I'm like you on this one.  We had a tough decision with Julie's 
> > mom...but fortunately the doctor was able to ask her mother if she 
> > wanted more pain medicine or did she want to be more alert.  She 
> > chose the pain medicine and it basically put her to sleep then shut 
> > her down.
> > She was in so much pain
> > and suffering from the cancer.  Now this case is a bit different, 
> > but if they feel that taking the woman off of the feeding tubes will 
> > cause her pain and make her suffer, I'm not for her suffering.  I 
> > say since she is basically dead anyway, then give her enough 
> > medication to let it be an easy transition.  I don't like playing 
> > God, but I don't think that is the case.
> >
> > David L.
> >
> > Ben Franklin:  "Only a virtuous people are capable of freedom. As 
> > nations become corrupt, they have more need of masters."
> >
> >
> >
> > -----Original Message-----
> > From: [EMAIL PROTECTED] 
> > [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED] Behalf Of Charles
> > Sent: Wednesday, October 15, 2003 9:58 AM
> > To: 'The Sandbox Discussion List'
> > Subject: RE: [Sndbox] Right to Die
> >
> >
> > I haven't decided on this one.  The woman has been vegetative for 13 
> > years.
> > For all practical purposes she is not alive, and reports I've heard 
> > is that her brain waves are severely deteriorated. The drain on her 
> > immediate family (Husband (children?)) must be enormous not even 
> > counting the financial drain keeping her artificially alive.
> >
> > I'm looking at it like this, my wife (who according to the laws of 
> > the state of FL is my next of kin) knows my wishes.  If she made the 
> > difficult decision to cease heroic measures on me I wouldn't want my 
> > mother to be able to step in and make a different decision.  If the 
> > extended family wins in this case, that is the precedent that will 
> > be set.
> >
> > I know for *ME* I don't want to live like that.
> > Take the tube away.  If it
> > is the only thing keeping me alive, I mean, and I'm not conscious.
> > Now if I were still conscious and just couldn't eat, then it is a 
> > different story.
> >
> >
> > Charles Mims
> > http://www.the-sandbox.org
> >
> >
> > -----Original Message-----
> > From: [EMAIL PROTECTED] 
> > [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]
> > On Behalf Of Tim Harder
> > Sent: Wednesday, October 15, 2003 10:38 AM
> > To: [EMAIL PROTECTED]
> > Subject: [Sndbox] Right to Die
> >
> >
> > Has anyone been paying attention to the woman in Florida who has 
> > been a vegetable since 1990.  They are going to remove her feeding
tube...
> > They say she will *probably* die in about two weeks....
> > Does anybody else find
> > this disturbing?  I suppose they will have her loaded up on pain meds?
> > Is it better for her to go this way... or would it be better for 
> > someone to give her a lethal dose of something?
> >
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