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well, I know alot of
kids who wanted to please their parents. Not get their wrath.
Also, I don't agree to
allowing underage children in your home and serving them alcohol. Not only is it
illegal and you could be arrested for it. What exactly is it teaching
them?
That you don't approve
of them drinking out somewhere because they might drink and drive? But as long
as they do it in the safety of your home, it's all hunky dorey?
My husband's mother
told him he could smoke but not in her house. What exactly did she do to help
him? Not a damn thing..she hurt him. Now he is 35 years old and smokes almost 2
packs a day. Maybe if she had tried to educate him or even just make his life
pretty damn hard to get any smokes in..he wouldn't have developed such an
addiction to it. He was a teenager and she basically threw her hands up and said
WTF?
She did the same thing
with her youngest and he turned into a dreg of society...all because she didn't
want to say no until it was too late.
----- Original Message -----
Sent: Thursday, November 13, 2003 12:33
PM
Subject: RE: [Sndbox] My stance on
underage drinking
Ok,
I'm just using the way my parents did things and the way my husbands parents
did things. No matter what I did, my parents punished me, even if I was trying
to do the right thing. If I had called them and told them I was drunk and
needed a ride home (which is btw what they always said to do) I wouldn't have
gone out ever again. Even when they always said if I ever wanted to be put on
birth control pills to come to them. I went to them....what happened. I was
grounded for 6 months. My husband would call his parents and tell them he
couldn't get home and they would come pick him up and he might be grounded for
one weekend but that was it. Usually not even that much. But b/c he knew he
didn't have to hide it, he honestly never drank that much when he was out. I
on other hand, did everything I could just to spite my parents for saying one
thing then doing another. I swore I would never be that kind of parent. Hell
my aunt has a 19 y/o daughter and from the time she was 16, my aunt told her
that if she wanted to drink or if any of her friends wanted to drink that they
could do it at her house. She informed the parents of the other kids of this
and they would all come in and give my aunt their car keys and stay the whole
night. B/C they were able to do this, they hardly ever did it. Most of the
time when teenagers drink it's b/c they know their parents wouldn't approve
and most try to do anything they can to piss off their parents just to spite
them. To this day, my cousin has only been drunk twice in her life and both
times were at her own house under supervision. And before you say anything, my
aunt did this b/c her best friend in high school was killed by a drunk driver,
her own boyfriend that she got in the car with. If you know they are going to
do it, isn't it better to make sure they do it
safely.
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