Astrid, And when do you want to dance, but "not as a woman" (since this is what the discussion is about)?
Nina At 04:14 AM 9/21/2007, Astrid wrote: >Frankly, I fail to understand where the problem is. In my experience, most >invitations to dance are extended silently anyway, whether it be cabeceo, >approaching my table with a smile and a nod when I notice him coming, an >outstretched hand or whatever. I will accept >-if I know the man from tango and like him >-if I know him as a reasonably good dancer >-if he is attractive >-if he looks like a talented beginner > >I will not accept >-if I know the man and dislike him >-if I have danced with him before or watched him with other women and know > -that he is a bad dancer >-that his hold is uncomfortable >-that he has no sense of rhythm and they are playing a milonga or some other >really enchating music >-that he is on the prowl rather than there to dance and everyone has been >turning him down >-or if he is dressed/groomed in a way showing disrespect to the tango > >In all these cases, it does not really make any difference WHAT the man says >to me. >Girls, watch the guys dance before you accept an invitation. Who wants to >buy a cat in the sack and then end up with an unpleasant, unnecessary >experience, and have to patiently hang in there for at least 3 minutes >unless you want to make a spectacle of yourself? >When a man walks up to my table, I have usually seen him already. And Nina, >I agree that women may love with their ears, but in a milonga it is the eyes >and the body- unless they fall in love with the music. >Facit: an invitation to dance (and it's acceptance) is not an act of >cerebral cleverness and glib or romantic seduction. It is usually the result >of a chain of preceding events. . > >_______________________________________________ >Tango-L mailing list >[email protected] >http://mailman.mit.edu/mailman/listinfo/tango-l _______________________________________________ Tango-L mailing list [email protected] http://mailman.mit.edu/mailman/listinfo/tango-l
