I only want to lead in real life. Tango is the ideal world where I get a break from all that... ; )
From: "steve pastor" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> To: <[email protected]> Sent: Saturday, September 22, 2007 2:28 AM Subject: Re: [Tango-L] Nina critique of Milonga invite, cabaceo revisited > How about when you don't want to follow, but want to lead? > reference my post in the "Who's leading" thread > > > > Nina Pesochinsky <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > Astrid, > > And when do you want to dance, but "not as a woman" (since this is > what the discussion is about)? > > Nina > > > > At 04:14 AM 9/21/2007, Astrid wrote: > >>Frankly, I fail to understand where the problem is. In my experience, most >>invitations to dance are extended silently anyway, whether it be cabeceo, >>approaching my table with a smile and a nod when I notice him coming, an >>outstretched hand or whatever. I will accept >>-if I know the man from tango and like him >>-if I know him as a reasonably good dancer >>-if he is attractive >>-if he looks like a talented beginner >> >>I will not accept >>-if I know the man and dislike him >>-if I have danced with him before or watched him with other women and know >> -that he is a bad dancer >>-that his hold is uncomfortable >>-that he has no sense of rhythm and they are playing a milonga or some >>other >>really enchating music >>-that he is on the prowl rather than there to dance and everyone has been >>turning him down >>-or if he is dressed/groomed in a way showing disrespect to the tango >> >>In all these cases, it does not really make any difference WHAT the man >>says >>to me. >>Girls, watch the guys dance before you accept an invitation. Who wants to >>buy a cat in the sack and then end up with an unpleasant, unnecessary >>experience, and have to patiently hang in there for at least 3 minutes >>unless you want to make a spectacle of yourself? >>When a man walks up to my table, I have usually seen him already. And >>Nina, >>I agree that women may love with their ears, but in a milonga it is the >>eyes >>and the body- unless they fall in love with the music. >>Facit: an invitation to dance (and it's acceptance) is not an act of >>cerebral cleverness and glib or romantic seduction. It is usually the >>result >>of a chain of preceding events. . >> >>_______________________________________________ >>Tango-L mailing list >>[email protected] >>http://mailman.mit.edu/mailman/listinfo/tango-l > > _______________________________________________ > Tango-L mailing list > [email protected] > http://mailman.mit.edu/mailman/listinfo/tango-l > > > > --------------------------------- > Don't let your dream ride pass you by. Make it a reality with Yahoo! > Autos. > _______________________________________________ > Tango-L mailing list > [email protected] > http://mailman.mit.edu/mailman/listinfo/tango-l > _______________________________________________ Tango-L mailing list [email protected] http://mailman.mit.edu/mailman/listinfo/tango-l
