nd the women keep telling the men not to refer to them in that way and they keep justifying their way of thinking. And would the men please stop telling us how we are supposed to feel about it!!!!!
I think Nancy said it pretty well - several women have shared their feelings, and I guarantee that we could produce many others who would agree - it matters less that you think it should not bother us, and more that you respect the fact that we've told you that it does (and btw, I am using "you" in the global sense, not you personally. I am willing to believe that you do mean it to be received as a positive comparison - but, as one on the receiving end, I can assure you that it isn't.....for a whole host of reasons that may or may not have anything to do with you or you alone, and have much to do with experiences such as the women on this thread have already described. If you say something to me that I tell you leaves me feeling hurt or offended - isn't the more respectful, or at least polite thing to do is not repeat it - rather than tell me I shouldn't be bothered? Maybe something along the lines of, "I really meant it to be a compliment, but I am sorry that it didn't sound like that to you. I think you dance beautifully...etc." I don't think this kind of sensitivity to someone's feelings is a cultural thing...... Have you joined the Buffalo Argentine Tango Society Yahoo! group yet? It's easy, and the best way to make sure you know what we're doing and what's going on with the Argentine tango in and around Buffalo......go to www.yahoo.com > select Groups > search for Buffalo Argentine Tango Society > follow the directions to join BATS_tango. Thanks! -----Original Message----- From: Igor Polk <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> To: [email protected] Sent: Sat, 22 Dec 2007 11:37 pm Subject: [Tango-L] tell me why someone can not stand comparison of a dancer to a musical instrument Please, tell me why someone can not stand comparison of a dancer to a musical instrument. I think, technically and educationally it is a perfect association. It should be something cultural, which I miss. What is going on? Please, help me to understand. Privately if you want. Please, it is important for me. Igor Polk _______________________________________________ Tango-L mailing list [email protected] http://mailman.mit.edu/mailman/listinfo/tango-l ________________________________________________________________________ More new features than ever. Check out the new AOL Mail ! - http://webmail.aol.com _______________________________________________ Tango-L mailing list [email protected] http://mailman.mit.edu/mailman/listinfo/tango-l
