I realize in the U.S. and maybe Europe the customs are different. Janis was referring to Buenos Aires. Here we have shortages of leads as well. It is no different. On a given night it seems like their are 20 women to every man. I have stopped going to certain milongas because the ratio of women to men is almost to the point where it seems like a "woman's milonga". In one milonga where the women sit separate from the men, 3 sides of the floor were women.
In your communities you have "your women" and "men." In ours we not only have "our women" we have tons of women who come here to dance. Many more than men. How about this? A milonga that normally has 60 women and 40 men receives 2 tour groups - each has 15 women and 5 men. So we now have 90 women and 50 men. This is not unusual. Keeping this in mind, we still dance all 4 songs in a tanda. Men do not walk off the floor after the second song because "followers are waiting." They dance the whole tanda with the woman they invited. The only reason to walk off the floor for either a man or a woman is when either is very rude or there is a gross mismatch of skills that make it impossible to dance. When the tanda is over, the man walks the woman back to her table. He should not leave her in the middle of the floor. It is like a date dumping you at the curb and expecting you to walk to your front door alone. A gentleman guides you back to your table. _______________________________________________ Tango-L mailing list [email protected] http://mailman.mit.edu/mailman/listinfo/tango-l
