I'm not going to mince words here. There is something happening at festivals
and maybe at milongas that is not pretty. Too many women are being way too
aggressive in asking, no! in demanding dances from leaders. Even from leaders
they do not know. The men are complaining. They are trying to hide. They
have turned down these women who have the nerve to return with hostility and
ask again. These women are grabbing men on the dance floor before they have
even disengaged from their current partners. They are lying in wait at the
entrance to the ballroom to snag guys before they even enter the venue.
I understand. We have come a long way and spent a lot of money to attend these
events. But......what happened to 'waiting your turn'? What entitles YOU to
dance more than I? The guys are great. They try to dance with old friends
they have danced with over the years. They try to get around to everyone they
know and then also ask the women who might otherwise sit. But I had four
different men tell me the women in Albuquerque were being 'mean' and demanding
and pushy. One even described being hurt so badly by a woman who tried stuff
he had not led and she was not capable of executing so that he was disabled for
the rest of the event - much to the chagrin of his wife. And I was not the
only one who heard these complaints.
So....if you didn't hear the complaints, were you part of the problem?
Maybe in your communities it is OK to ask the men to dance. Maybe some men
like it. But I am old school. I like to know that a guy asks me to dance to a
specific musician, for a specific type of dance. I do a lot of sitting. But
on Sunday, I was asked to dance by five of the best dancers at the festival.
Certainly worth waiting for. Maybe next time the men won't be so polite or
maybe they will decide not to come to a place where they have little say in
choosing their dance partners. I hope not.
"Other than that, Mrs. Lincoln, how did you like the play?"
The festival was fantastic. Tom, as usual, had everything well organized and
the locals, led by Paul, provided us with a great hotel, excellent food, a good
sound system and perfect weather. The semi-outdoor event was in an impressive
space with some good Southwestern comida. And the country around Albuquerque
and Santa Fe is some of the most beautiful you will ever see - especially
Bandelier Nat'l Monument.
Nancy
A veteran of this festival and several others
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