I dance mostly in Boston, the mecca for Argentine Tango that Sharukh founded, thank God for him. I love the community. It gives more to me than I can ever repay to it.
I seek out every follower in a milonga to dance (except those who one way or another convey their disinterest.) I dance with every follower who asks me, whether by cabeceo or direct face to face request. There is no tanda with anyone that I have ever regretted. The only regret I experience is the regret a follower shares with me that ours is the only tanda she danced tonight. A community will stagnate for many reasons. One reason is that people feel unwelcome. I pray that does not happen to my Tango Society of Boston community. At 07:57 AM 6/13/2015, Shahrukh Merchant wrote: >What a nice post, reminiscent of the some of the articulate and >expressive posts of Tango-L's own "golden age"! A model post, really, in >how even your disagreements with what others write are respectfully >presented without losing any of their force. Please write more! :-) And >feel free to copy your "Why I don't need saving" post onto the list as >well; it would be interesting to see the range of opinions and reasons. > >The main reason I find for women or men not getting to dance as much as >they would like is the simplest of them all: demand and supply (aka >gender balance in a milonga setting). And just like in the non-tango >world, demand and supply forces can be modulated to some extent in the >same way that it is in the commercial world: E.g., > - having a better quality product (however you define it) > - marketing the better qualities that your mixed-quality product has > - excellent marketing of a poor-quality product >etc. etc. (though the metaphor breaks down with "volume discounts" which >doesn't really transfer over to Tango :-)). > >Referring to the article you mentioned where the French guy was >proposing symmetry in men and women being "allowed" to ask the other to >dance: in terms of my own preference, I have no interest in being asked >*directly* to dance by a woman (with the usual exceptions of those who >know me well enough to do so, and I have no problem with the occasional >"ladies' choice" tanda that some milongas have). But women have all >sorts of ways of asking without having to ask directly, so they are >hardly disempowered. Vive la différence! as far as I'm >concerned--androgynous tango holds little interest for me. > >Shahrukh > >_______________________________________________ >Tango-L mailing list >[email protected] >http://mailman.mit.edu/mailman/listinfo/tango-l > > >----- >No virus found in this message. >Checked by AVG - www.avg.com >Version: 2015.0.5961 / Virus Database: 4360/10015 - Release Date: 06/14/15 Allen Swartz 16 Stillman Road Melrose MA 02176 Office: 781 662 9546 Fax: 781 662 9546 Cell: 617 943 6988 Allen Swartz 16 Stillman Road Melrose MA 02176 Office: 781 662 9546 Fax: 781 662 9546 Cell: 617 943 6988 _______________________________________________ Tango-L mailing list [email protected] http://mailman.mit.edu/mailman/listinfo/tango-l
