Mimi, we are with you and Jim. I'll call you today. *William R. (Bill) Elliott*
30105 Briarcrest Court Georgetown, Texas 78628 *speodes...@gmail.com <speodes...@gmail.com>* 573-291-5093 cell On Sun, Apr 17, 2022 at 4:49 AM Mimi Jasek <mjca...@gmail.com> wrote: > I will be bringing Jim home soon since the facility has said he has > plateaued in his rehab. Unfortunately the anesthesia put him back mentally > as to cognition abilities. They feel he is strong, can do things, but takes > single instructions to accomplish them. They suggest 24/7 care for his > safety. Perhaps they are right, and perhaps his dementia? or frontal lobe > stroke damage got worse from the surgery to fix his hip. I personally know > he did not get the same kind of rehab this time that he got after the > stroke. Different facility for a number of reasons. I saw deficiencies and > he told me of one therapist’s frustration with him. No matter. Seems like > we went one step back, then two or three more. I needed him to be so much > better before bringing him home, but we shall see. I must get Home Health > Care and sitters - again - arranged for next week, besides working normal > hours and having PTO blackout till 5/4 due to phone system change at work. > He may come home in wheelchair, but our house is not good for that. He can > walk on his walker though. He has to. > > I sold his truck to pay down some of our past debt to help me get closer > to retirement to be with him, but this money will now be used for his care. > Since he has been in rehab both our phones went out, I had to get him a > tablet till replacement for him comes in so he would have a way to watch > his movies, both 1965 era toilets in house broke, and sewer and water lines > from house to street had to be replaced! All that on top of replacing > washer and water heater a few months ago, as well as the tub to shower > conversion for him. I keep thinking ok enough already! Lol I have an older > sister and friends say for me to really think about long term care, but I > know he is not there, and will not give up on him. He is a human being, not > something to be thrown out with the trash! They worry about me though, but… > > I have had times of great frustration and sadness even before Jim broke > his hip with how our lives have changed due to his health issues. I am > exhausted, I have developed a manageable heart condition myself due to kind > of managing a high BP problem somehow when going for checkups maybe for > years to where it went undetected till later last year. Then his hip. My > desire some days to just walk away from my financial responsibilities for > us so I can be with him is almost overwhelming. But…I don’t know how it > happened, but the other night I suddenly realized what my place is in all > this, and really always has been - that of his champion, his caretaker and > caregiver to the end, no matter the cost. I have no one else to depend on, > no ready help, and no one on this earth loves that man like me. I can still > feel stressed and overwhelmed, but when he asks me not to leave him and to > please take him home, well… > > I am up late a lot, and have started watching some Saturday night music > shows on CBS. As luck would have it tonight I saw a show about Rob Thomas > of Matchbox 20. He did his solo songs “Unwell”, which equated to Jim, and > “Ever the Same” which is us in a nutshell! Then Ryan Hurd was on later and > sang his song “Wish for the World” - another affirmation of us. I quietly > cried, knowing this is us, and somehow we will once again make it through. > > Our world is so messed up right now. In recent years we have lost too many > in our community. We also have a number in our caving community who are > aging and need help and someone to care for them. Some are luckier than > others. Just do not take life for granted, and if you can give of your self > and your time to another, do so. It means the world believe me. Create your > own safety net too for your future, for life happens. > > Be safe and well, and go outside to enjoy the beauty our world has to > share - whether above the crust or below. We seriously both wish we could > join you 😊 > > Mimi Jasek > > Sent from my iPhone > _______________________________________________ > Texascavers mailing list | http://texascavers.com > Texascavers@texascavers.com | Archives: > http://www.mail-archive.com/texascavers@texascavers.com/ > http://lists.texascavers.com/listinfo/texascavers >
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