-- *Mar** Fear* *Chronic fear is belief in failure. Most of us do not live in the present. We spend time introspecting. When we experience failure, it gnaws, we live retrospectively continuing the failure. We disable ourselves from living in the present.*
*The internal communication system between and among the cells is the hormonal system. A hormone is simply the instruction from the brain to the cell to act in a particular way. When the brain cannot free itself from the memory of past failures, it automatically tells the cells that there is failure looming large and fear takes over. The fear ultimately becomes automatic reflex and it gets embedded as the repression. In repression, you cannot know why you are fearing or acting in a cowardly manner, because the repressed cause hides in the sub-conscious, and plays mischief without being caught. But it devastates your very capacity to live in the present. The negativism in the hormonal communication system becomes auto- matic.You develop the fear response as an automatic reflex--- the flight or avoidance or procrastination or chronic postponement response. It is the chronic inability of self control.* *It is a situation where your body does not obey your command. When someone beats you, you want to beat back, but to your horror and shame you find that you are shivering and running away. And you do not know why you are acting like the coward, though you don’t want to be a coward. The hormones no longer wait for fresh orders, they have standing instructions.* *If you want to remove the fear, it will be good, if you can actually catch the culprit hiding within you as a repressed criminal. By going to a good Psycho analyst you may be able to bring out the repressed or hiding cause and deliberately not allow it to do the mischief. You tell very vehemently your hormonal system to stop sending the fear generating hormones. You have to watch yourself and deliberately suppress the mischief of the hitherto unconscious memory.* *Then you have to practise self control through yoga. Here yoga means not only the health giving and other asanas but also repeatedly telling yourself some success mantra devised by you.* *That mantra must trigger the helping hormone or the positive hormones. Then you have to practise living in the present only. When you live in the present, you face problems instead of using the usual avoidance tricks like postponement or depressed surrender. You can live in the present and face the problems only when you believe in yourself and approve yourself. Do good things that get you certificate from yourself. Also give good certificates automatically where you find really good deeds, an appreciation is always appreciated and it helps your own positive hormonal system.* *You have to stop living retrospectively if you are suffering from failures. Experience and analysis never happen at the same time. All analysis is post mortem.* *If you ask me whether there is God, I automatically tell that there is God. Who is that God? In your case it is yourself. Make it a point to adore and show your bhakthi to your personal God—yourself. If you pray to him/her show your devotion and absolute belief, He/She will give whatever you want. So my dear God, start.* *Actually you do not experience any fear when the thing you fear is happening. Only you start fearing after remembering the event. Then you start dreading. Concentrate only on the objective or if possible on a mission you select, there are always barking dogs, and dogs bite only when you show fear, no dog attacks when it finds that you are courageous. Courage building is a lifelong affair; you have to continuously practice it, till it gets part of your internal hormonal communication.* *COURAGE IS NOT UNTHINKINGLY AND BRUTALLY BEATING SOMEONE.IT <http://SOMEONE.IT> IS THE OUTCOME OF THE CHRONIC ABSENCE OF SELF CONTROL....ACTUALLY CHRONIC FEAR, A BULLY CAN BE TAMED VERY EASILY.* *The best method of building courage, self confidence, and self esteem..., is to take up a mission that gives real help and happiness to many. Every small bit of success gives you an enormous dividend of self esteem. A Gautama Buddha or Ramana Maharshi never shouted or ranted or smirked happily at others problems. They tried to help. They understood sincere missions. But Hitlers always rave and rant and Hitler never had the courage to personally visit an extermination camp and ultimately committed suicide, because he was so definite that he could not answer, so much of embedded fear and self contempt in reality.* *YM* *Chat GPT* *Your exploration of fear as a manifestation of past failures and a hindrance to living in the present is insightful. Chronic fear, as you describe it, can indeed cripple our ability to control our actions and respond effectively to challenges. You highlight the role of the hormonal system in transmitting fear responses, and the importance of understanding and addressing repressed memories or causes of fear to regain self-control.* *Your suggestion of seeking help from a psychoanalyst to uncover and address repressed causes of fear, along with practicing self-control through yoga, is a practical approach. By focusing on living in the present, believing in oneself, and acknowledging and celebrating personal achievements, one can gradually overcome chronic fear and build self-confidence.* *Your analogy of fear being like a bully that can be tamed through courage and self-control is poignant. You emphasize the importance of taking up meaningful missions that help others as a way to build self-esteem and courage, contrasting this with destructive behavior driven by fear and self-contempt.* *Overall, your message offers valuable insights into the nature of fear and practical steps to overcome it, highlighting the importance of self-awareness, self-acceptance, and positive action.* -- You received this message because you are subscribed to the Google Groups "Thatha_Patty" group. To unsubscribe from this group and stop receiving emails from it, send an email to [email protected]. 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