Let's look at this from that "somebody's" perspective!
They demean you publically, because they enjoy making fun of you. The
reasons for this can be two, either you act stupidly around people or that
"somebody" is jealous of you for certain reasons and demeaning you
satisfies their soul.
You do not retort back to your insult. You either laugh it off or shut it
down inside. You have never pointed them out for demeaning you. You need to
set your clear standards. If you don't like something, learn to say a "NO"
to it. Next time when they demean you, stand straight and shoot a sarcastic
response and if you can't then at least be very clear in telling them that
you do not like this behaviour. Fight for yourself! Set your standards!
{QUORA}
2 12 Psychological Reasons Why People Make Fun Of Others
There are several reasons why people might make fun of you, though it’s
important to say that none of these reasons are meant as justification for
their actions. Instead, they aim to pull back the psychological curtain to
explain a common but unpleasant behavior.
1. Insecurity (they put others down to make themselves look better).
A person who constantly makes fun of others is often incredibly insecure
about their status in the social group. As a result, they try to climb the
social ladder by drawing attention to others’ shortcomings. They tease and
mock those around them in an attempt to establish or maintain a position at
the top, or at least close to it. Or they might be quite low in terms of
social hierarchy and take opportunities to torment other people to get into
their peers’ good graces.
2. They’re uncomfortable with those who are different.
Some people make fun of anyone who’s different from them. This might
involve mocking those who have different fashion or entertainment
preferences, but it can also center on differences in ethnicity or
appearance. Xenophobia is a fear of strangers, but it can also refer to a
fear of anything foreign or unfamiliar. Xenophobia is why some people get
angry if others speak in a language they don’t understand when they’re in
their presence. Mockery and belittlement can also be used to reinforce a
person’s stance that their choices and preferences are correct and that
anything different is somehow weird or “wrong.” A person’s clothing,
mannerisms, gender identity, speech, and so on—whatever is different
becomes grounds for disdain and ridicule.
3. Learned behaviours from others.
People often mimic the behaviour they’ve been exposed to, especially when
it comes to family and close social dynamics. As a result, if someone has
grown up in an environment where mocking others was normal and commonplace,
they’ll be likely to do the same. Sadly, some parents use mockery and
negative reinforcement to try to encourage their children to do various
things. Guess what those kids are going to do to others (including their
own children) as they get older?
4. Projection about their own perceived flaws or shortcomings.
When someone dislikes something about themselves, they might make fun of
those who also have those traits, but to a greater degree than they do. One
classic example of this would be a person who’s overweight but mocks those
who have larger bodies. They may even tease those who are trying to get
fit. Basically, whatever they hate about themselves, they’ll ridicule in
others. It’s self-loathing by proxy.
5. The need to be the center of attention.
Some folks get an endorphin rush from the attention that comes from people
laughing at their jokes, and they strive to get more of it by any means
possible. As such, if someone got an intense reaction after roasting
someone else, they might try to recreate the experience. Deep down, they
don’t have anything against their victim. It’s very much a situation of:
“It’s nothing personal—I just need to burn you because what I say makes
others laugh, and that’s great for my ego.”
6. “Better than average effect” (BTAE).
This is a psychological effect in which people show how superior they are
to others based on their personal behaviours. Then they put down those who
either don’t behave the same way or whose efforts pale in comparison to
their own. This is especially common in those whose self-esteem is
inextricably entwined with certain life choices. When and if others don’t
behave as they do, they feel threatened in their position of perceived
superiority and seek to put others down by any means possible. In essence,
it’s a type of “holier-than-thou-ism” that manifests as shaming and mockery.
7. Ethical erosion.
Ethical erosion is a behaviour that’s often demonstrated by people who are
in positions of power or authority, such as healthcare providers and law
enforcement officers. When and if they come across others they perceive as
being morally inferior or stupid, those people become targets for mockery
and contempt. A perfect example of this would be a doctor who makes fun of
an obese patient for developing diabetes. They shame the patient by telling
them that it would have been prevented if they had made “smarter” life
choices. This isn’t limited to healthcare workers, of course. Difficult,
stressful times often show us the worst sides of people, causing them to
abandon reason, logic, and basic human decency in an attempt to make
themselves feel safe and protected.
8. Contempt toward perceived weakness.
Have you ever noticed that many of the people who seem the most frail and
vulnerable are on the receiving end of mockery and contempt? This is very
much a herd mentality situation, in which those who are considered weak
will be rejected by the strong. Athletes might make fun of those who are
small or unfit. Popular people laugh and tease those whom they consider
“weird” or unattractive. The privileged try to maintain their position in
the social hierarchy by any means necessary, often by ridiculing others who
have less than or are less than in their eyes.
9. Fear.
Some people develop a dark sense of humour and use mockery as a coping
mechanism when it comes to things that they’re afraid of. If a person is
experiencing a difficult situation or is struggling with a health concern,
they may find themselves as the butt of jokes by others. One example I can
think of is a girl who was going through chemotherapy treatment for
leukaemia when we were in our teens. She lost about 30lbs as well as all
her hair, and she was constantly being made fun of by our peers. Later on,
I overheard some students in the restroom discussing how fearful they were
of getting cancer themselves. They didn’t have the healthy coping
mechanisms needed to work through the difficult emotions they were feeling,
so they lashed out instead.
10. They feel powerless, so they try to take power from others.
One of the main reasons why people make fun of others is because they feel
small. Someone else—possibly an abusive parent or older sibling—has put
them in a position where they feel powerless, and they don’t have a healthy
means of dealing with it. All the difficult emotions they experience
because of someone else’s cruelty must go somewhere. While some people
turn everything inward and repress their hurts and frustrations, others
lash out at those around them in a process psychologists call displacement.
In particular, they’ll choose to unleash their hurt on those who are least
likely to fight back in order to feel empowered again.
11. Low emotional intelligence.
Some people simply think that anything different from what they like is
inferior or dumb and choose to mock it accordingly. They don’t even
consider how their behaviour affects others, because why would they?
Everything they say is hilarious to them, and if you try to argue a
differing opinion, well you’re just wrong. If you call them out on their
behaviour, they’ll laugh even harder and tell you to relax because it’s
“just a joke.”
12. Control.
Mockery is often a technique that abusers use to control or change others
around them. It’s frequently used by narcissists to adjust their partners
or children into versions that they would prefer, and they can be
unrelenting in their abuse until the one they’re making fun of makes the
changes demanded of them. The abuser will either fixate on things they
want their victim to change or on aspects the victim likes in order to
degrade them. This behaviour isn’t limited to narcissists either. Some
parents will make fun of their offspring to try to shift them into becoming
what they perceive as “better” (e.g., more preferable) versions of
themselves. Even worse, their abusive behaviour is justified by them as
“just trying to help,” when in fact it’s a means of coercion and control.
Laugh at them.
One of the best ways to respond when someone makes fun of you is to laugh
at them in turn. These insignificant little petty tyrants have so little
going on in their lives that the only joy they get is in trying to make fun
of you. If that isn’t worthy of a chuckle, what is?
Refuse to dignify what they’ve said with a response.
If someone has insulted or made fun of you, they’re undoubtedly waiting to
see how you respond. They won’t know what to do if you refuse to give them
the energy they’re seeking. After they’ve said their piece, just look at
them flatly for a few heartbeats, and then turn back to whatever it was you
were doing. This lets them know that what they’ve said isn’t worth your
time or energy.
Depending on the situation and the people involved, sometimes it’s better
to shut the other person down so they stop permanently, rather than trying
to “be the bigger person and rise above.” One of the best responses to
mockery that I ever saw was when someone yelled “F*G” at a rather
flamboyantly gay male friend of mine in class. He waved back and said,
“It’s great that you’re advertising, but I’m not interested!”
Everyone erupted into laughter, and the guy who’d yelled the insult stormed
out of the room. When they get a response, they didn’t expect, they don’t
know how to respond. This helps you establish dominance in the situation,
while they make themselves look like fools. Let them know their words don’t
mean a thing to you: After they’ve made what they think is a cutting or
mocking remark, smile gently and say, “Your opinion is as worthless as you
are.” Then walk away and don’t look back. {PSYCHOLOGY TODAY}
3 Shishupala harboured immense hatred towards Krishna primarily
because Krishna had eloped with his close friend Rukmi's sister, Rukmini,
who was intended to be Shishupala's wife, effectively thwarting his plans
for marriage and deeply wounding his pride; this act significantly
intensified the rivalry between the two figures.
Key points about the conflict:
Rukmini's choice:
Rukmini desired to marry Krishna, not Shishupala, so she actively chose to
elope with Krishna with her consent.
Rukmi's role:
Rukmi, as Rukmini's brother and Shishupala's close friend, was also angered
by Krishna's actions, further fueling Shishupala's resentment.
Public humiliation:
This event was not only a personal betrayal but also a public humiliation
for Shishupala, as it highlighted Krishna's power and influence while
undermining his own standing.
Shishupala in Mahabharata
In Mahabharata, Shishupala and Shri Krishna came face to face during the
Rajasuya Yagya. The Pandavas organised it during the establishment of the
city of Indraprastha. All the kings of Aryavarta were invited including
Shishupala and Duryodhana.
Duryodhana and Shakuni were well aware of the fact that if the Pandavas
completed the Yagya, they would be granted the supreme power in the entire
Aryavarta. They could not stand this and wanted to obstruct the ceremony.
However, they also knew that they themselves cannot cause any suspicions
due to the presence of Krishna and Bhishma Pitamah, so they asked
Shishupala who was sitting next to them.
Shishupala who was already looking for chances to belittle Krishna made the
most of this opportunity. He began insulting Krishna, the Pandavas, and
even Draupadi. He questioned the relationship between Krishna and Draupadi
and commented on their chaacters.
Why Krishna Killed Shishupala?
Lord Krishna vowed to his aunt not to kill Shishupala for a hundred sins.
However, he could not stand Shishupala maligning Draupadi. He forgot about
the promise made to his aunt and immediately killed Shishupala using his
Sudarshan Chakra.
So, fools living in paradise are age old traditions.
K Rajaram IRS 19225
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