My, what a wonderful example of how Bias cloud our minds. Frankly, as a male I admired how Silda came out, without make-up, haggard, and cried out but she stood there as I saw it, as an example for her daughters about what loyalty and family are about. She was more shamed than Eliot because of what his behavior suggested about there marriage. We saw the same thing in the wife (about to be ex) of the NJ governor who admitted to giving his male lover a state job and had a 1 year affair with him. Again a woman standing there for her child. As she recently said-"after-all this man was the father of my child." We saw it with the Senator from Minnesota. His wife stood next to him too.
Perhaps we should honor these woman who did something that a man probably wouldn't have done for their wife's if the situation was reversed. I leave it to the consciences of those who wish to attach their bias opinions to why woman do that-perhaps they are biased for reasons only they might want to explore. After all isn't that the role of the scientist? Wouldn't we, based on our theories and practical experiences, quickly recognized the behavior of a sick man doing illegal acts rather than a criminal. Should we not have been the first to offer up understanding and compassion? What does out training and experience instruct us to do in times like this? Let the cable news people pass judgement, we know what motivates them, shouldn't we have a higher calling? -----Original Message----- From: [EMAIL PROTECTED] [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED] Sent: Sun 3/16/2008 12:06 PM To: Teaching in the Psychological Sciences (TIPS) Subject: Re: [tips] Politician's Wives Hi An opinion - In general and historically I think that women are aware of the greater expectation that they will put up with sexual infidelity more readily than men will...and there is probably some resentment of that double standard. Just a guess based on casual observation, not a scientific conclusion. I think that as women are less economically dependent on men (as a group or on average) than they were 50 years ago, to whatever degree it might have been true that women are more likely to put up with it than men are, it is less true now. Many women can and do walk when this happens. Since Silda Spitzer has a lot of professional skill and experience it may be that women who can identify with her are frustrated that she has not yet left (not that I would be at all shocked if she does in the near future). Or maybe they are concerned that she is doing what many perceived Hillary C. to have done - staying with a philandering husband in order to gain political ground. Trading off marital satisfaction for political gain...ignoring the possibility that fidelity might not be that important to her for whatever hidden (none of our business) reason she might have. Nancy Melucci Long Beach City College Long Beach CA **************It's Tax Time! Get tips, forms, and advice on AOL Money & Finance. (http://money.aol.com/tax?NCID=aolprf00030000000001) --- To make changes to your subscription contact: Bill Southerly ([EMAIL PROTECTED]) --- To make changes to your subscription contact: Bill Southerly ([EMAIL PROTECTED])
