I know what you mean.  My partner / caregiver has just stub his little toe 
again.  He does this every few months.  So, I say " Do you want to use my 
walker, so that you wouldn't stub your little toe again? "  
While I use the walker, I can see that my walker would hit something way before 
either of my feet would. lol
It's so very hard not to say things like, Try being sick for the last ## of 
years.   I try to bite my tongue and just try to be VERY understanding to their 
problem at that time.  
Just trying to keep the PEACE,
Todd in CC, TX

--- On Wed, 11/19/08, Robert Pall <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote:

From: Robert Pall <[EMAIL PROTECTED]>
Subject: [TMIC] Anybody else been there?
To: "tmic" <[email protected]>
Date: Wednesday, November 19, 2008, 8:59 AM



        My wife has been sick for around 5 days with a sore throat/cough (she 
is getting better). Anyway she asks me last night if I ever recall her feeling 
bad this long……what I should have answered was "no"…which is true….but instead 
I answered "imagine how it feels to be sick for more than 11 years"…her reply 
was "why does it always have to be about you?"…I apologized and just answered 
her question with a resounding NO!
        The point of this story is to show that even the people closest to us 
really have no idea how TM effects our daily life. How even the easiest things 
are now hard…and for the most part I (we) complain rarely and just go about our 
day dealing with our condition to the best of our ability.
        When we had the NJ TM support group on 11/2 I requested that the TM'rs 
bring their spouses or parents..hoping hearing from others would enlighten them 
in dealing with us. I would never wish TM on anyone (well maybe Bin Laden) but 
if our friends and loved ones could feel how we feel for just 5 minutes then 
they would be able to better relate. This will not happen and that is why this 
list and support groups are so important. We have a forum where we can discuss 
our TM related problems to people who truly understand!
        Just my thought for the day! 
Rob in New Jersey 

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