Anybody else been there?Ahhh Rob, I hear you, as they say in the classics! I
feel it so hard to be empathetic these days when someone (usually Trev)
complains of "minor" ailments. I also get people coming to me to explain all
their woes and I'm just so over it!
I have noticed that those who complain a lot get so much sympathy, while those
of us who just go about their life with as little complaint as possible just
get no understanding at all. A lot of lip service, but when it gets down to
the nitty gritty really people just have no idea and it's really hard when it's
those who are closest to us.
While knowing how hard it is for our partners, it just doesn't really make it
easier does it?
Like Jeanne said Rob, all we can do is keep on keeping on. Or, you can always
look on it as character building :-))!
hugs
Gilly
----- Original Message -----
From: Robert Pall
To: tmic
Sent: Thursday, November 20, 2008 1:29 AM
Subject: [TMIC] Anybody else been there?
My wife has been sick for around 5 days with a sore throat/cough (she
is getting better). Anyway she asks me last night if I ever recall her feeling
bad this long..what I should have answered was "no".which is true..but instead
I answered "imagine how it feels to be sick for more than 11 years".her reply
was "why does it always have to be about you?".I apologized and just answered
her question with a resounding NO!
The point of this story is to show that even the people closest to us
really have no idea how TM effects our daily life. How even the easiest things
are now hard.and for the most part I (we) complain rarely and just go about our
day dealing with our condition to the best of our ability.
When we had the NJ TM support group on 11/2 I requested that the
TM'rs bring their spouses or parents..hoping hearing from others would
enlighten them in dealing with us. I would never wish TM on anyone (well maybe
Bin Laden) but if our friends and loved ones could feel how we feel for just 5
minutes then they would be able to better relate. This will not happen and that
is why this list and support groups are so important. We have a forum where we
can discuss our TM related problems to people who truly understand!
Just my thought for the day!
Rob in New Jersey
