First let me thank all of you that let me know that I am getting through to
the list. Seems I could receive posts, yet earthlink addresses weren't going
through. Jim has it all fixed now, thank you Jim.
All the caregiver posts of late were very interesting to me and opened my
eyes to the different stages we all go through.
I can pretty much care for myself, yet at times do need help with certain
things. When TM hit me, it was really hard for my husband and I to find a
comfortable place for our relationship. I didn't know where I would fit in
his life and he didn't know what he could do, if anything for me. It was a
really rough couple of years, but we persisted and made it through fine.
8 weeks ago, I had 5 bypasses done. This was a huge surprise to us both, I
didn't realize I was sick, and truly thought I had acid reflux for the last
year and a half. I am an extremely lucky lady, no heart attack, no heart
damage, just really clogged arteries. I must say that this time, we fell
right into step and he has been so great. This surgery was really hard for
me to go through. I had some problems during my hospital stay and the
restrictions placed on me when I returned home changed all of our lives. I
could not be left alone for a month, so my daughter quit her job so I
wouldn't be alone during the day. I could not drive until this week,
yippee!!! It put so many things in perspective for me. My husband took such
good care of me and never let me forget how much he loved me and wanted me
around.
If you have a caregiver, communicate with them, don't assume they know how
you feel or what you want. We all have only one life and it can be taken
from us so quickly. Let those you love know how much you love them and how
much you appreciate them.
Lori
