Hi Gilly, It's Kevin here...one in the same from the TM Network and also Facebook... I just want to say...you hit the nail on the head with me...About letting things go...I'm having an incredibly hard time with that right now...I'm on Wellbutrin right now and have been for just over a month...I've noticed no improvement so far. Before Wellbutrin I was on Effexor...it did nothing either. I get sooooo irritated with some of the people in my household..(without going into a lot of detail..I have a very complicated household situation with the number of people that live here) I used to be able to let go of things before, because I would normally do the things that tick me off now. I would do them because it was stuff that kept me busy and I liked that. It drives me nuts to not be able to do some of the things that I used to do. Because of that, I get very bent out of shape when something that needs done, doesn't get done or doesn't get done the way I think it should be done. This has obviously caused some friction between my wife (Lizzie at Caregivers Count Too!) and I. I am currently going to therapy sessions twice a month...and of course they are stressing that I need to try and let go of some things. They even went over the Serenity prayer with me. My Psychiatrist even prescribed Ativan (anti-anxiety med) to take when I am feeling like things are getting a bit tense.. I've taken them a couple of times....she told me to take one, two or three depending how tense I was. I've found that taking one does nothing, two barely anything and three just barely takes the edge off. So, needless to say...at my next appointment I'm going to address this situation. I don't know if my meds need adjusting or what. I'm trying to get better at letting things go...lord knows I'm trying....but I think the bullheaded, stubborn ass German in me is hindering me. I don't know... Anyway....that's all for now.. Kevin
________________________________ From: Gillian Clark <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> To: TM list <[email protected]> Sent: Sunday, November 23, 2008 1:44:11 AM Subject: Re: [TMIC] Anybody else been there? Jeanne, I took a lot of convincing to take the anti depressants and only did because I've known my doctor for many many years. I'm so pleased he convinced me, they have been wonderful for me and since TMer's have the highest percentage of suicides (apparently) we should all be on them. I would suspect that most of our carer's should be too :-)). Just digressing a little now while I'm thinking of it. After all the discussion we've had lately about carers, I've been thinking back to when that was my job. I loved it but with many apologies to those with MS, the patients I found most difficult were those with MS. That could be because I didn't have any with TM! The point of telling you this is that we can make our lives and our carers much easier by letting go of very many things. Because we get frustrated that we can't do things and others aren't doing them just the way we want and when we want is no reason to take it out on everybody. Set yourself new priorities and remember, the world still turns no matter if you do things or don't and how those things are done if somebody else does them. Another 2c worth from me Gilly ----- Original Message ----- From: jrushton To: Gillian Clark ; TMIC Sent: Sunday, November 23, 2008 10:48 AM Subject: Re: [TMIC] Anybody else been there? Just a note on the antidepressants... When I was in ICU and getting ready to be discharged the neurologist insisted that I do not be without them. He said people with issues like we have really do need them and since then, I can understand it. It isn't something to be ashamed of and there are so many different kinds now that if one doesn't seem to work, you can try another one. Growing up in the 50's and 60's, if you went to your doctor and told him/her (mostly him at that time) that you were depressed he would tell you it was all in your mind and if a person insisted on getting something you would be given Valium. Thank God they have finally come so far! They have also helped women with PMS big time. j
