I am so sorry about your 'friend, Lynn. It really is a sad thing when this happens and as we're finding out, it happens a lot. The good thing is that we don't have to regret what we did. Sadly, we lose someone that we thought would be in our lives forever. As we have grown older, I find that I have real friends and most now are right here on this site. I love my nursing friends dearly and some would be here in an instant if I needed them but they are busy with their jobs and own lives so I don't 'bother' them with chatting like I do with you. So many of them are on Facebook so we chat and laugh back and forth but I do realize that their lives did not come to a halt when I was 'hit' with TM. I know they still love me. If they get too smart with me, I'll just make them another nice Jello mold with a dead frog in it! (another story :)
Seriously, I feel sad for you and the others that had this same type of thing happen. I care for you all. Each in your own special way and if we were to meet face to face it would be like we've known each other for years, I think. And the wheelchair?? Wow! People are wonderful, especially at the airport! Hugs for all...Jeanne -------Original Message------- From: [email protected] Date: 7/24/2009 12:04:49 PM To: [email protected]; [email protected]; [email protected] Subject: Re: [TMIC] Friendships Well....I guess since I resubscribed to the list recently.... I may as well weigh in on this one. Pre TM my best friend had to have wrist replacements on both of her arms.....one at a time. Her surgery was performed two hours from home. So.... I drove her there, spent the night in a motel, drove her home after surgery.....all at my own expense. She couldn't even open a can of soda so I loosened the jars in her fridge, did her laundry, cooked for her, cleaned her house, stripped her bed, etc., etc. and took care of her 12 Australian puppies on a daily basis for approx. 6 weeks......I did all of that twice since only one wrist could be replaced at a time. Her healing time took about six weeks. I also did her grocery shopping and put everything away for her. And....I paid for the groceries because she was totally broke. Eventually I left the state of California and moved to Nevada.... then....D-Day came for me and I was paralyzed by TM. She came up here to visit me once......borrowed $3,000. from me... a year later she sent me a Christmas card with a check for $500. enclosed......and I haven't heard a word from her since. She stopped returning my calls which I don't understand because I never once pressed her for the money. I figured when she had it she would pay me back. Guess not. I learned a good lesson from her..... now if someone wants to "borrow" money from me I don't "lend" it to them.....I GIVE it to them with no expectations of getting paid back. And if I don't have it to loan, I just say "Sorry...don't have it." I've made some really good friends since TM.....people that really care... they treat me like gold so I feel very fortunate and don't miss my "best" friend at all any more. I'm amazed at the people in Reno...... whenever Bill takes me anywhere he has to take me in the wheelchair.....people always open doors for us... had to testify at the court house one day and the security guard came down the stairs, gave me his hand, and walked me up the steps..... these things happen every time I go out. No one has ever been cold and uncaring in my 12 years with TM. Maybe all of you should just move to Reno....! :-) Love, Lynn An Excellent Credit Score is 750. See Yours in Just 2 Easy Steps!
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