Jeron, There is no time table for having a good time. Life is way too short to hole yourself up and wonder "what if..." Nothing ventured, nothing gained! If she's anyone worthy of you, she will prove it out on this trip. If you are considering as big a step as this trip implies, you must already have some incling into how she stacks up in the compassion and understanding department. You already know you can make it on your own alone, so there's no fear in that. I'm sure you're nervous, but it's her birthday - and she wants to spend her special day with you. That says a lot right there. Go, have fun, don't put any expectations on it and you won't be disappointed. Betty (in Northern California) _____
From: Jeron Rampersad [mailto:[email protected]] Sent: Friday, October 14, 2011 9:42 AM To: [email protected] Subject: [TMIC] is it too early? (off topic) Hey guys, I need some advice. Most of you would remember my wife leaving me in April of this year. Since then I've found acceptance of my lonliness and it really was not too bad. Anyway, some 2 months ago I met up an old friend from way back and well, let's just say sometimes life just has a way of hooking 2 people up. My problem is I'm going away with her this weekend to a resort on the island of Tobago for her birthday. I'm kind of wondering if I'm ready to spend a weekend with someone alone. Haven't thought about that since my separation/divorce. What if I start having real feelings for her? What if she wants more out of this "relationship" after this weekend, even though we spoke about it at lenght. I was really honest with her from the get go, suppose honesty becomes my downfall? Should I be scared guys? or should I just go and have fun....forget TM/fibromyalgia/vasculitis for a weekend and enjoy the company of a woman who I might like? Regards, Jeron
