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Well said, Divya. Girls need to be tough and instead of getting frightened, they should be violent. I remember watching a movie. Dimple Kapadia is an inspector and she is a very strict officer and she is raped by a group of gangsters. Her lover, I think Raj Babbar, gives her support and let her continue in the profession. Later on she forms a group with all the abused girls and traps the men who robs women of their modesty and operates them so that they will be invalid all their lives. As a woman I personally feel that is the good punishments to such ba.....ds. ( I am sorry for using such an unparliamentary language but robbing women is the most serious and heinous crime.) I remember when I read about Poolan Devi for the first time when she got elected as MP. Earlier I know bits and pieces about her. But then there was a cover story on her in Eenadu supplement. I couldn't even complete reading the whole story and I dared not to read further. I was crying and crying for 2 hours are so continuously and the impact was such that for two days I not even dared to step out of my house. Why a woman should always be an object of desire? Why men look for women outside their marriage? (not everyone though.) Why an act of love should become a means to satisfy sensual desires? I don't know whenever I took newspaper I see the incidents of fathers raping the daughters, neighbours raping even 3 months old girl. What a beasts they are! I do not know how and why people become such perverts. In one of the examples quoted by Sr. Lissy Joseph, an engg. student robbed the girl who works as domestic help in his home. Students doing it. Who are responsible? To be frank, I feel like I shouldn't give my kids (either boy or girl) to any people whomsoever they may be and I or their dad or an elderly woman (my mother or his mother) to be with them until they can understand what is what and I wish to teach them how to be careful, how to conduct themselves etc., (This is the strong feeling I got and I made up my mind to be so). Yes. As parents and relatives or as fellow citizens we should advice young girls how to take care of themselves. We also should give support to abused children and help them to lead normal lives as others as quick as possible. --- In [email protected], "divyapryga" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > > Hm... > > More or less what I thought. Just kept thinking what did u want to do > with ur servant/s that worried ur parents so much. > > I know what you mean when you say these girls might infact be scared > when men approach them. Abuses such as these can only have two effects > on a woman. Either she looses her minimest of strength n prefers > sitting in dark un-noticed corners or becomes a Cat and hunts down > every man walking towards her. > > In my lines....I think....it is something inbetween these two that a > Woman needs to align with. As a bounceback....turn her emotions into > thoughts - think/think/think....what can you do to help urself...becos > u dont' help urself first...then no one else can. > > As biased as it sounds...coming out untouched & unseeked for seems to > be the biggest challege a female faces today in her > worklife...specially in cases where these girls/women are the > bread-earners...and the otherend knows that this female has to work > till she gets that paycheque. > > Stepping stone according to me is starting to raise ur girls along > with boys - treating them both equal. Donot look at ur girl like a > flower....or make her feel like one all the time. She has every right > to be aware of how the outside world is. The shell called family > ofcourse is heaven and super safe...but the sad fact is that you > cannot keep ur precious little girl in it all her life. Very soon by > the time you realise...she is out there in the open world either in > the name of education or work. Prepare her for this and if possible > teach her to be a fighter when needed. She has to know how to cruise > around situations. She can't afford to wait for family to come help > all the time. > > A Girl is a Daughter, Sister, Friend, Wife, Mother is what we hear. > But...if situation demands.....she can be a weapon of steel...this is > what you need to build into her. We as parents are the ones who can > make this possible since we are her early teachers and we are the > people she looks up to and tries to follow all her first years of life. > > Though I believe that changes in a woman's being can come anytime > becos of sitations around her....it is a sad fact that these always > come with a cost. She changes becos she had to face something > otherwise to what she has been raised/used to. We can change this if > we as parents work on it from our girls' infant stage. > > Make ur girl a fighter too....not a flower totally please!! Simply > because you cannot expect each and every to handle her like U did and > she has but no option to live in todays' society. > > -Divya > > ********************************************************************** **** > > --- In [email protected], "Lakshmi Prasanthi > Uppalapati" <prasanthi.uppalapati@> wrote: > > > > It seems everyone misunderstood my abrupt ending of the mail. > > > > Somehow I was not in mood then to pen. Actually I write everything > feeling > > for it. If I am not in proper mood, I do not opt to write. (I should > change > > this habit and I should write religiously as soon as I attend any > meetings > > not to give confusion). > > > > Listening to Sr Lissy Joseph created hell lot of emotions in me. To be > > frank, these days I stopped thinking on general issues (which I used > to do > > earlier. I even stopped reading news paper too). After so many > months, the > > meeting stirred up the person in me, like waking up a person > sleeping like > > dead) > > > > I will try to cut the story short. > > > > Direct Problems > > > > 1. Abusing the girls who work as servant maids > > 2. Harassing children who work as domestic help > > 3. Looking down the people who work as domestic help > > 4. Blaming them for no fault of theirs > > 5. Lack of sensitivity in officials towards their problems > > > > Social Evils > > > > 1. Bringing religion and questioning the authenticity and the > integrity of > > the people who sincerely work for a cause > > > > Achievements > > > > 1. Educating people who treat themselves as low and improving their > > self-esteem > > 2. Inspiring them to live life with dignity > > 3. Motivating them to form groups and let them stand and speak for their > > genuine rights > > 4. Let the govt. issue a GO for domestic workers. (CM Rajasekhar > Reddy is > > going to announce this on May day and we can watch a program in DD or > > Saptagiri channel between 11am to 12:30 pm --- I suppose). Domestic > workers > > should register themselves with the Department of Labour and should > renew > > for 100 Rs. once a year. Once they get registered, they can have a work > > structure of no. of work hours, no. of holidays, minimum wages etc., > Also > > they will get some other benefits. > > > > What we can do > > > > Actually the sister is working for the all-round development and > improving > > the standard of living of domestic workers. To that effort, she is > helping > > for the education of the kids, rescued and joined the girls who were > abused > > and put them into hostels and let them study. > > > > I suggested her that if we can have the profiles of the orphan > children who > > are studying and there is a confirmation that the progress will be > reported > > on a regular basis, I can refer them to Vonumu Foundation. > > > > Our female members will visit the girls in the hostels to give them > moral > > support. (sorry that I do not include male members because the girls > might > > not talk freely and instead of feeling support, they may fear > again). I can > > go and I feel that Sowmya may also accompany. > > > > Last but not the least. We can educate our servant maids of their > rights and > > help them in registering themselves. > > > > P.S: My parents worried that other families in our complex might get > angry > > on me and quarrel with us for saying Leela about all these things:) > > > > On 4/15/06, sowmya V.BalaKrishna <vbsowmya@> wrote: > > > > > > Me too like Divya, dint actually get What u wanted to say prasanthi. > > > Whats it in this mail tht made Ur parents worry?? I dint > understand...or > > > may be i dint read through the mail properly. > > > plz elucidate. > > > S. > > > > > > [EMAIL PROTECTED]>* wrote: > > > > > > Hello Friends, > > > > > > Good Morning/Evening. > > > > > > Today I attended a learning session meeting at CSIM. Sister Lissy > > > Joseph, the co-ordinator for National Domestic Workers Movement, gave > > > the presentation. > > > > > > It was very horrible to listen to the attrocities done on the domestic > > > workers and the plight of them. It stirred lot of feelings in me. > > > > > > I do not want to say or explain who Sister Lissy Joseph is but I wish > > > to explain her inspiration to took up this cause of the domestic > workers. > > > > > > One day Sister Lissy Joseph was walking through a road and she found 3 > > > children of ages 6, 4 and 2. The 6 yr old kid was giving bath to the 2 > > > yr old kid holding the hair tightly and using soap on the face and the > > > kid is crying pathetically. When the sister approached them asking > > > about their parents, the girl replied that her father is a rickshaw > > > puller and her mother is a servant maid and the mother, father leaves > > > the home at 6 am in the morning and return almost at 9 pm. The 6 yr > > > old kid has to look after the house and the other two kids. > > > > > > Later Sister Joseph visited them again and spoke with their mother and > > > she told that she gets Rs. 800 only if she works all the day in 6 > > > houses. Out of which she has to pay Rs. 150 as rent, Rs. 100 as water > > > bill and Rs. 100 as electricity. What remains for them for food? Her > > > husband is a drunkard. He hardly gives any money to the family. That > > > is when that she decided to take up this cause. > > > > > > Rest is history. Ofcourse it is not so easy. I wish all of us has the > > > privilege to listen to these things through her directly. Now she is > > > successful in bringing about a G.O. for them. The coming May 1st CM is > > > going to announce it and in DD Saptagiri Channel from 11:30 am to > > > 12:30 pm there is a programme on their efforts. > > > > > > I hope I can write about all that I listened to. But as I said the > > > meeting stirred a hell lot of emotions in me. I wish to share them > > > with you all. Not in a mood to pen them all now. > > > > > > How and in which way we can help them that also I will write to you. > > > > > > P.S.: My mother feared a lot and she has been thinking about it even > > > without sleeping. She comes to me and says 'Don't do that. Even if we > > > agree, the others will scold you saying that you are the person who > > > explained her all these things'. Even my father too supported her > > > saying 'Don't do such things baby. We are helping Leela (our maid) our > > > level best. We are looking her good. Why go beyond that?' I responded > > > to them saying 'I can answer them. If they scold me, let them scold. I > > > don't bother'. May be the inspiration given by Sister Lissy Joseph or > > > the confidence that what I am doing is a just thing. > > > > > > Thank you. > > > > > > with regards, > > > PRASANTHI. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > ******************************************************** > > > GOD is Conscience. 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