RE: ugnet_: Why young women date married men

[Anyomokolo]

Happy new year to you Kironde. Hope you enjoyed the new year and Christmas holiday.

 

I have been winding down my days on acholinet. I know I have said it before that I quit acholinet but this time I am out. I have posted a mega piece about my biography and since they know who I really am, acholinet is no longer fun. I use to enjoy writing when I was a mystery woman. But, on Dec12th, 2003, I decided to let them into my world off acholinet. As a result I can no longer enjoy acholinet the same way.

 

Anyomokolo

 

Ed Kironde <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote:

Sophia

Where have you been? Good to see you back and happy new year

 

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I would chose to date a married man over single/unmarried guy becuase a single man would always want to control, dominate and own me. A married man is already controlling his wife. I don't want any man to control my life and freedom. Unlike these Makerere students, I have my own money and will never trade my freedom with $$$. I can have a married man and another, a regular one, on the side if I choose to. If the regular one begin to control my freedom, I will chuck him immediately. The married one will always be around while I look for another regular.

So, to conclude, for me, a married man is a complete package. I can get what I want and maintain my freedom. I don't know about other women but my freedom is very important. 

 

My freedom is very important. Very important. Actually it is the reason I can't get married.

 

Anyomokolo

 

 

Owor Kipenji <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote:

Why young women date married men
By Muhwezi G. Bonge
Jan 2 - 8, 2004

Most people including my self must be wondering why that cute lady that any man would love to have as his own is comfortably engrossed in the arms of a married man. Why she risks being found out by the wife of the man she is dating? It's much more than you think so let's take time to reflect on what that married man has that a bachelor doesn't. Faridah Nabagereka acting as Ashiraf Ssemwogerere's girlfriend in Gawandagala, Bat Valley theatre (Photo by Willy Tamale). Some ladies confess that usually married men can't admit that they are married but she later finds out when she has already given too much to leave him. There is a lot that ladies find in married men than you can imagine. Most ladies confess that they date married because married men give them security. Does this mean that youthful guys can't provide that security? The argument here is that although she knows he is married, she can count on him to be responsible and maintain her and his wife. When a woman is dating a married man, she does not have to worry about cheating after all the whole relationship is based on cheating. So she does it for fun. Usually a married man is mature and cares for her feelings more than the youthful men. For example when a married man takes her out he does those 'small' things that really count like opening the door for her to sit, pulling the chair for her and even calling her after the date to know if she is feeling fine. More to that, women confess that married men are sincere and gentle. So guys take heed, if you think by not giving your all or by not showing your weaknesses, you are being a man. Wake up, you are missing the point. Married men usually have that financial superiority which sometimes, youthful men don't have and even if he is doing well financially, he can't take care of all her needs. Cynthia a second year student at Makerere university admits that she is currently dating a married man so that he takes care of her needs like food, airtime, service fee, mention it, but still maintains her boyfriend who completed last year and is working right now. Why is it that she doesn't ask such things from her boyfriend? She argues that she feels that she is exploiting someone she loves and more to that, her boy friend has to work for their future. Then why exploit the married man? She feels he is also exploiting her, so it is a situation of mutual exploitation. Asked if her boyfriend finds out? She says she plays her cards so well that even if she receives a call from the 'big daddy' when she is with her boyfriend she has to divert the conversation to become neutral so that her boyfriend can't suspect anything. Married men treat them like little goddesses. For example a married man will buy her airtime without expecting a call from her but just to please her. She will use all the airtime without giving him a single call and once it is finished she will go back for more. Married men and young ladies in relationships are out there to exploit one another. So is it ethical to do this? The debate remains open.

 

� 2003 The Monitor Publications

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