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Article Published on:
6th May 2004. |
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Lets tallk... Sex! with Carolyne Nakazibwe. Have you figured out yet why making love can sometimes be such a bore? You make things so easy, that�s why. It is always a ready-steady-go affair for you, and it is now ten years and counting. Well, same positions too I guess? Come on! Put some punch into things and get the ball finally really rolling. If you introduce some teasing into your affair, it is not in bad taste. Your spouse will thank you for it later. You know, the idea of getting the carrot first? Then it would be all yours. This can be done for the foreplay, the actual lovemaking itself and for every other stage in your affair. The psychologist Tracey Cox calls it the TEMKEK � treat�em mean, keep�em keen � which perfectly keeps them on tiptoe every little step of the way. Imagine the positive anxiety you would cause him undressing sensually and slowly, or even pausing altogether like you are about to postpone! Fine, also the tearing off the clothes in a haste, sending buttons flying all over the room can be quite a thrill at the next junction, but for a change, take things slow. When you are planning a tease action or strip tease for that matter (yes, sex therapists actually say it is perfectly okay to plan for sex, much as spontaneity works better) put thought into what you use, lest your spouse misses the objective altogether. This means, the lingerie choice had better be perfect. Know your skin complexion and choose colours and fashions carefully. Otherwise, if you start your strip tease with a grey brassiere matched against a dotted pink panty, then you had better brace yourself for possible disappointment my dear. But unwrapping a glistening body from good clothes and perfect underwear will have him sweating and bounding across the room in seconds to grab you. Just keep jumping out of the way and make him wait some more. Things like dragging the foreplay on longer than usual until she is practically weeping�? Or when it comes to the actual penetration, don�t do it as expected but pause about 0.0005mm away from the real thing and tease a bit if you can hold out yourself. This is said to work for the women as well, especially if you are trying the woman-on-top positions. Don�t let him have it so easy. Dangle the bait for some time and watch him writhe. Just don�t wait too long� they could pass out or get a heart attack! You know that saying about the dog that was mercilessly teased with a piece of meat � or was it something else? Anyway, and it salivated to death. So, don�t stretch the play too far. If you want to drag it on, then you can even create episodes. Again, this is according to sex therapists, people! By episodes, you come in, do a perfect job of turning them on to a point of no return as far as they are concerned, then you change your mind about going through with it. After giving her a full day or so of thinking about little else but what could have been, you go back and take it a bit further and again post the �To Be Continued�� note. It is totally up to your own capacity to hold out to decide when you finally go the whole nine yards. But it will be certainly memorable. Well, they say! I know, I know. Teasing can be quite mean and for some unromantic, unfaithful ones, she or he may not even stick around to find out what you do the next time, but will walk out and quench the urge elsewhere unfortunately. So, like I always sing here, know your partner well before you do any |
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