We all realise by now that you are a fabulous person from a fabulous country. But perhaps one should give it a rest now. The chances that the B52s appear over your place as well are very great.
"Ekhart GEORGI (last name last)" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote in message news:[EMAIL PROTECTED] : Susan Baugh wrote: : : > I have always been told that you must ignore unsociable list behavior : > and that you must not respond in any way : > because anything else reinforces the behavior. Telling someone not to be : > aggressive, just reinforces the : > aggressive behavior. : > Be realistic. Suggest what works, not what sound like it should work. : : There are very different kinds of antisocial behavior. In the case of : trolls or others looking for a fight or wanting to create chaos, it's in : fact often best to just ignore them. However, even then, sending many : *private* messages is sometimes necessary and helpful for both the list : and the aggressive person. These kind of people want public chaos or : just attention, and many private messages full of admonitions and/or : words of advice are a healthy cold shower for the first need and have a : therapeutic effect on the second. : : In the case of bullying, however, the same rules apply as on the : playground and in any workplace, club, etc. One should never blame or : criticise the victim for defending themselves, one should always address : the original aggressor, and one should address the problem publicly. : Bullying is amazingly widespread in workplaces and schools, and one : reason Finland keeps being number 1 in the international PISA studies is : because of its successful active efforts to quell bullying, which are : based on breaking the age-old culture of silence surrounding this social : cancer that is still belittled widely and even considered healthy to : make kids stronger, when in fact it reinforces both the aggressors' and : victims' behavior throughout adulthood. --------------------------------------------------------------------- To unsubscribe, e-mail: [EMAIL PROTECTED] For additional commands, e-mail: [EMAIL PROTECTED]
