you were seriously a sexuality studies major in college? Were you specifically looking for a school that offers that? Because mine doesn't. Women's studies, yes, and I'm sure there are courses in sexuality in the dept., but not a whole sexuality studies major. Have to ask--what do with that degree? Sex therapist, sex educator?
--- In [email protected], Eleanor Keyser <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > > Sigh. Some form of BDSM is practiced by a third of the population (and that's a conservative estimate). Also, BDSM is rapidly entering the mainstream of cultural awareness. Did you ever see the movie Secretary? And yes, in healthy BDSM relationships the sub/bottom does have the power (assuming the dom/top is playing safely). There are actually more submissives/bottoms in the BDSM world than dominants/tops, and dominants/tops are often at greater risk of having emotional issues (read: guilt/a sense of perversion) with their activities than s/bs. It's a phenomenon known as "top drop." The thing about this story that seems odd to me is the formality of the contract. Most spousal abuse starts subtly, is cumulative, and involves more subterranean manipulation, as opposed to such overt power displays. But I'm in no way saying that I believe this was consensual or non-abusive. Just that it's unusual. > > And to quench everyone's curiosity, I am not a member of the BDSM community. I don't engage in anything more than the very lightweight stuff that most people do. So I am by no means an expert, merely an interested academic. Not that there's anything wrong with that. > > Ellen <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: you guys seem to know a little too much about the D/S lifestyle. > > > --- In [email protected], Michael Campbell > <tyger42@> wrote: > > > > > > > > --- Eleanor Keyser <eleanorkeyser@> wrote: > > > > > It is repulsive if the situation is what it first appears, but I > > > wonder if it's possible this couple was involved in a D/S > lifestyle > > > relationship that has now soured. Doesn't sound like it, but > > > couples in the lifestyle often do have contracts with very > similar > > > specifications and reward/punishment systems. Most of these > > > relationships are consensual and healthy. > > > > I was thinking the same thing about the D/S lifestyle as well, > except > > that in typical D/S relationships, it's the sub that truly has the > > power. They get to define the parameters of what is done to them > and > > how they are treated. One utterance of the safety word and > playtime is > > over. > > > > > In any event, something > > > went wrong somewhere, and there is NEVER any lifestyle > justification > > > for child pornography (defining child porn however...thornier > issue > > > than you might think.) > > > > I don't think it's as thorny as defining porn itself, though. > Yeah, we > > probably all had pictures taken by our parents where we're naked as > > jaybirds. Of course, being naked isn't the only yardstick. > Witness JonBenet. > > > > __________________________________________________ > > Do You Yahoo!? > > Tired of spam? Yahoo! Mail has the best spam protection around > > http://mail.yahoo.com > > > > > > > > > > --------------------------------- > YAHOO! GROUPS LINKS > > > Visit your group "weingartenchatters" on the web. > > To unsubscribe from this group, send an email to: > [EMAIL PROTECTED] > > Your use of Yahoo! Groups is subject to the Yahoo! Terms of Service. > > > --------------------------------- > Yahoo! Groups Links <*> To visit your group on the web, go to: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/weingartenchatters/ <*> To unsubscribe from this group, send an email to: [EMAIL PROTECTED] <*> Your use of Yahoo! Groups is subject to: http://docs.yahoo.com/info/terms/
