of course lots of girls do this and are fine.  But just because
nothing happens to them doesn't mean there are plenty of pedophiles
out there who are turned on by these images.  If they just stay home
and look at them online, oh well.  It's hard to molest someone you
don't have contact with.  I can't generalize, but in this particular
case this guy says he loved a 6 year old.  He probably wouldn't love
some typical 6 year old.  This isn't inherently risky behavior like
going out on a date with a known murderer or something, but the
general consensus seems to be that the pageants objectify little
girls, which everyone seems to agree is a bad thing.


--- In [email protected], "Hannah Robinson"
<[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote:
>
> I should know better to throw a bomb into the middle of a thread and
then
> have to go back to work, so it looks like I'm not interested in
responding.
> Anyway, this line was the one I was reacting to in specific:
> 
> So even though I don't think the parents did it, I still don't
> think
> > > they are off the hook because putting her in the pageants put her
> at
> > > risk for pedophiles. My 2c.
> 
> Clearly, I HATE lines of reasoning like this where people apportion
blame to
> crime victims.  I recognize that a lot of people are going to
disagree with
> me on this one basically along the lines of the TSTL (Too Stupid To
Live)
> principle.  But when we apportion any responsibility whatsoever to
people
> who did not commit the crimes and are in fact victims, we negate
part of the
> responsibility that should wholly belong to the perpetrator.  To my
> understanding, violent crime is zero-sum.
> 
> I also think people use this excuse as a crutch.  We think, "It
won't happen
> to me because I'm not stupid," when that makes little difference (I
did say
> little).  Plenty of children participate in these pageants and don't
die,
> and plenty of children are never anywhere near them and are abused
by people
> they know.  People are raped, robbed, beaten and murdered all the
time, in
> all kinds of situations whether they were 'being smart' or not; and
people
> make it home safe and unharmed when they were being dumb as dirt. 
When we
> talk about "You shouldn't have been in that situation," we're really
trying
> to say, "How do I make it so that doesn't happen to me?"  Because we
> identify with the victim and the thought of being powerless in the
face of
> physical threat is so frightening we end up blaming the victim which
is also
> making excuses for the murderer.  Thatsort of reasoning is what I was
> reacting to (albeit without explaining myself well).
> 
> Should you sleep naked in Central Park or let your kid play alone with a
> defrocked priest?  I'm agreed, statistically unwise.  But where is the
> demarcation of responsibility?  Should your kids never be allowed to
walk
> home alone? Should all women never get drunk in bars?  Should all
grown men
> be kept away from small children?  Where's the line where it stops
being our
> fault we 'got' mugged/raped/killed?
> 
> 
> On 8/17/06, Ellen <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote:
> >
> >    I'm just repeating what I read in several places. Blaming the
> > victim? No I'm not blaming the victim. I'm partially blaming beauty
> > pageants for young children and the parents who think this is a good
> > idea. These pageants have long been thought to objectify children as
> > sex objects. I think you're jumping to conclusions.
> >
> > --- In
[email protected]<weingartenchatters%40yahoogroups.com>,
> > "Hannah Robinson"
> >
> > <hjrobinson@> wrote:
> > >
> > > You're just trying to send my blood pressure throught the roof,
> > right?
> > > Because when you blame the victim you realize you shift blame from
> > the
> > > perpetrators, right?
> > >
> > > I hope you're never on a rapist's jury. Clearly it would have been
> > her
> > > fault for being in the bar in the first place.
> > >
> > >
> > > On 8/17/06, Ellen <ellengoodman6@> wrote:
> > > >
> > > > I know this isn't funny, but I wonder whether the JonBenet
> > case will
> > > > cause parents to think twice about putting their kids in beauty
> > > > pageants. As I said, I never thought the parents killed her, but
> > at
> > > > the same time I didn't think her being a child beauty queen was
> > > > coincidental. Looks like her pageants caused the suspect to have
> > > > pedophiliac attraction to her, which to be honest is not
> > surprising.
> > > > So even though I don't think the parents did it, I still don't
> > think
> > > > they are off the hook because putting her in the pageants put her
> > at
> > > > risk for pedophiles. My 2c.
> > > >
> > > >
> > > >
> > >
> >
> >  
> >
>







 
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