Kristy:
Where did it go your "Loving kindness"?.
Take very good care of your own mental illness leading you to see me in such
a distorted way and using harmful words. Is not this called schizophrenia?
Mayka.
--- On Sat, 26/2/11, Kristy McClain <[email protected]> wrote:
From: Kristy McClain <[email protected]>
Subject: Re: [Zen] Re: Can A Buddha Harm Others?
To: [email protected]
Date: Saturday, 26 February, 2011, 0:26
Anthony,
I rarely, if ever, get angry. I did feel frustrated, but I had been working
all night, and it was 4a when I checked those messages. I resolved it.
I recognized some time ago that Mayka has some egocentric and self-esteem
issues. I have empathy for those. I think when my husband read some of her
words-- he wondered, as did I, if she has had a medical eval from an
experienced psychiatrist. (His dad is one, so he has a trained eye on
this). Birth trauma, injuries, accidents as well as neuro-chemical imbalances
and other organic factors, stronly influence behavior. There could be many
causal factors, including being bi-polar or any number of very common
conditions. Medication can be very helpful, but often the biggest challenge is
breaking through the patient's denial that they need some help.
I do have empathy, but I maintain a boundary for insults or or abusive
behavior. That is no longer an issue. I appreciate that you have a kind eye
on her. We should all have that for everyone. But you find excuses for her
behavior, and I do not. But I am saying clearly here that I do wish her well
, and every happiness. But I am not alone in recognizing that some medical
intervention could dramatically and literally--change her life.
I already have a happy and meaningful life. I don't need to be a buddha--
Just the most sincere and authentic me that I can be. With the love of
friends, family and my husband-- I'll there. Thanks for your comments, and I
hope we will have more zen-relevant discussions in the future here.
Enjoy your weekend..
Kristy
--- On Fri, 2/25/11, ED <[email protected]> wrote:
From: ED <[email protected]>
Subject: [Zen] Re: Can A Buddha Harm Others?
To: [email protected]
Date: Friday, February 25, 2011, 4:36 PM
Anthony,
You are not doing too badly yourself in your insight-wisdom!
--ED
--- In [email protected], Anthony Wu <wuasg@...> wrote:
>
Kristy,
You are a real bodhisatva in loving kindness.
I hope you also work on another aspect to avoid anger. Don't take offense.
Anthony
Anthony & Chris,
I remember the first time I visite the Holocaust Museum in D.C. I watched a
short film of two Jewish men scheduled for execution. One man said how
grateful he was to their captors. The other, shocked at hearing this, asked
"Why"?
The man replied, "I'm thankful I am not them".
I know in my own life, trauma is something that offers a gift. It guides your
heart . I have experienced many of the same feelings--and more, as I have had
many different types of trauma in my life. I suppose thats why I never use
the word "victim", as it is such a powerless state of being. One can choose a
response that can help us heal or hurt.
Trust was always difficult for me, and I have to say that my husband has
helped me the most with this. He never lies to me. Not even "white" lies"
that might be for my happiness, like a surprise birthday party. He knows that
I would rather have the truth--as he knows the truth to be. Our
communication is so tender and kind as a result. I've noticed that we are
very thoughtful in what we do say, because we don't want to hurt or hide
anything, so we are lovingly respectful to one another as a result. Our
friendships are the same, and I am so grateful to have them in my life.
Well.. back to work..
Thanks,
Kristy
