Suresh,

It's diffincult to know what to say to you in this situation.  I really have no 
idea how hard it is for you to deal with this kind of situation.  I am a parent 
myself and have raised 6 children.  They can be very trying sometimes 
especially as they get older but I have not had to deal with anything like 
you've described.

Just in general I think it's okay to let your child know when they have 
displeased you and even made you angry.  I don't think physical discipline 
works very well but must admit I have used it myself, mainly when I thought my 
child's actions were presenting a danger to themselves or someone or something 
else (like a pet).  But when I used physical discipline it was more to shock 
them, to get their attention then actually hurt them.  I also have found out 
that trying to best a child in a contest of wills is not a good idea.  They can 
be very stubborn sometimes and usually can outlast you, putting you in a 
situation that's not helpful to you or them.

I can only advise you to take some deep breaths, sit zazen if you can - even if 
only for a few minutes at a time, and try to find someway to get some help in 
dealing with your son.  You should put a priority on finding someway to carve 
out some time for yourself to be away from them, even if just for a couple 
hours.  The constant responsibility and challenges it sounds like you're facing 
can wear you down very easily.

The only other thing I can do is wish you luck and hope that you and your sons 
soon find yourself in better times.

...Bill!

--- In [email protected], varamtha@... wrote:
>
> Dear sirs,
> 
> Today unfortunately I have beaten my younger child for not speaking. I become 
> very emotional. He is 7 years old, until last month at least he used to 
> parrot what we say and for his name, he will say his name.
> 
> For last one month he has stopped talking and all his needs are by just 
> indication or some sound. His schools and therapist complaint to us but can't 
> do by them selves.
> 
> He hit me first, that instigated my anger and I wanted to show my anger 
> controlled expecting at least a word to say daddy stop, but he did not. I 
> have holding for than 20 minutes, but all the time he cried but no word came 
> out of his mouth.
> 
> I am pained for not speaking and also pained because unnecessarily I have 
> tortured him.
> 
> I have asked forgiveness from him, but still he looks at me suspicious 
> whether his father really changed or just another opportunity to beat him.
> 
> I asked forgiveness to god, but still my pain not gone and hence this 
> confession to this group.
> 
> Pray god for my younger son to speak soon.
> 
> I believe in prayers, and group prayer for one cause can do wonders.
> 
> What ever I will achieve in any field will not give me satisfaction unless my 
> children become normal. Especially elder son getting better, but only worried 
> about younger son.
> 
> Please pray.
> 
> 
> Suresh 
> 
> Sent from BlackBerry® on Airtel
>




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