Suresh,
It's diffincult to know what to say to you in this situation. I really have no idea how hard it is for you to deal with this kind of situation. I am a parent myself and have raised 6 children. They can be very trying sometimes especially as they get older but I have not had to deal with anything like you've described. Just in general I think it's okay to let your child know when they have displeased you and even made you angry. I don't think physical discipline works very well but must admit I have used it myself, mainly when I thought my child's actions were presenting a danger to themselves or someone or something else (like a pet). But when I used physical discipline it was more to shock them, to get their attention then actually hurt them. I also have found out that trying to best a child in a contest of wills is not a good idea. They can be very stubborn sometimes and usually can outlast you, putting you in a situation that's not helpful to you or them. I can only advise you to take some deep breaths, sit zazen if you can - even if only for a few minutes at a time, and try to find someway to get some help in dealing with your son. You should put a priority on finding someway to carve out some time for yourself to be away from them, even if just for a couple hours. The constant responsibility and challenges it sounds like you're facing can wear you down very easily. The only other thing I can do is wish you luck and hope that you and your sons soon find yourself in better times. ...Bill! --- In [email protected], varamtha@... wrote: > > Dear sirs, > > Today unfortunately I have beaten my younger child for not speaking. I become > very emotional. He is 7 years old, until last month at least he used to > parrot what we say and for his name, he will say his name. > > For last one month he has stopped talking and all his needs are by just > indication or some sound. His schools and therapist complaint to us but can't > do by them selves. > > He hit me first, that instigated my anger and I wanted to show my anger > controlled expecting at least a word to say daddy stop, but he did not. I > have holding for than 20 minutes, but all the time he cried but no word came > out of his mouth. > > I am pained for not speaking and also pained because unnecessarily I have > tortured him. > > I have asked forgiveness from him, but still he looks at me suspicious > whether his father really changed or just another opportunity to beat him. > > I asked forgiveness to god, but still my pain not gone and hence this > confession to this group. > > Pray god for my younger son to speak soon. > > I believe in prayers, and group prayer for one cause can do wonders. > > What ever I will achieve in any field will not give me satisfaction unless my > children become normal. Especially elder son getting better, but only worried > about younger son. > > Please pray. > > > Suresh > > Sent from BlackBerry® on Airtel > ------------------------------------ Current Book Discussion: any Zen book that you recently have read or are reading! Talk about it today!Yahoo! Groups Links <*> To visit your group on the web, go to: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Zen_Forum/ <*> Your email settings: Individual Email | Traditional <*> To change settings online go to: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Zen_Forum/join (Yahoo! ID required) <*> To change settings via email: [email protected] [email protected] <*> To unsubscribe from this group, send an email to: [email protected] <*> Your use of Yahoo! Groups is subject to: http://docs.yahoo.com/info/terms/
