I realize that this might be entirely idiosyncratic, but might I suggest that people refer to each other by first name (if you know the person well), or by honorific and last name (such as Ms. X or Prof. Y), rather than simply by last name?
I have the tentative sense that such references by last name to fellow participants in a conversation may come across as more brusque than the speaker might have intended. I realize that this isn't always so; among other things, it's not uncommon to so refer to other scholars in articles ("Tribe says X, but Dershowitz thinks Y"). But my sense is that this sounds different, and a bit harsher, in a conversation. On a conference panel, for instance, I'd probably refer to my fellow panelists either by first name or honorific-plus-last-name; if that is the norm, it might be helpful to follow it also in on-list discussions. At the same time, I stress again that this is offered just as a tentative suggestion. Eugene _______________________________________________ To post, send message to [EMAIL PROTECTED] To subscribe, unsubscribe, change options, or get password, see http://lists.ucla.edu/cgi-bin/mailman/listinfo/religionlaw