Vamshi Sir, Very well said. You have raised 2 very important issues.
I do come across many people who ask me how I can "see" movies or watch TV. However, one good thing for me is that I do most things that people my age do. For example, I love following all major sports and news stories,and I am mostly aware of all the latest movies and books that are out there in the market. So, thankfully, that is not an issue for me. The second major issue which you raised is about VI people trying to maintain a clean and good image. One problem which I have faced in this regard is that most of my friends who don't know me very well treat me with way too much respect. So, due to this, you don't feel like you're equal to them. They treat you like they would treat someone far older than them. I have observed that my best friends are those who treat me like they treat everyone else, and do not change their behavior just because of my problem. On 04/12/2011, Zujar Shabbir Kanchwala <[email protected]> wrote: > I agree. Many of us find discomfort or feel awkward sharing emotions with > people around just coz of disability. Also, many of us carry self without > paying attention to appearance, attire, etc and remain confined to > themselves and their disability which also establishes a disconnect with the > sighted world. Such behavior strengthens people's misconceptions and > pre-image of a disabled person. Acts of participation and sharing + a > positive attitude can go a long way in bridging gaps making the world a > better place to live for all. > > -----Original Message----- > From: [email protected] > [mailto:[email protected]] On Behalf Of Vamshi. G > Sent: Sunday, December 04, 2011 10:03 PM > To: [email protected] > Subject: Re: [AI] Socialising > > Hi, > > Another important aspect in socialising is to involve yourself in all > sorts of discussions. Many people feel disabled do not have certain > emotions, which is a misconception. Once I went to a romantic movie > along with my college mates, and many of them commented that even I > was interested in such movies. I clearly told them that I am also a > human being and had all sorts of emotions like them. I even > questioned them why I couldn't, and shouldn't, have such emotions. > And I involved myself in a very humorous discussion relating to that > particular aspect. Later on I was invited into the group and became a > very close friend of the group, who helped me in my academics by > speaking out what was written on the black board. > > The reason I'm writing this is because some times disabled people feel > they should act very decent in order to keep their image very clean so > that others come to help us. But I feel we should be ourselves which > make others feel that we too belong to their world. > > > On 10/2/11, Chetan Soni <[email protected]> wrote: >> My teachers clearly spoke and i noted down using braille. I feel that the >> recording devices are the better option but braille is better than asking >> someone to write down the notes. >> ----- Original Message ----- >> From: "Phen Varghese" <[email protected]> >> To: <[email protected]> >> Sent: Thursday, December 01, 2011 3:50 PM >> Subject: Re: [AI] Socialising >> >> >>> If you want someone to help you to write what is tought in the class >>> then there are two opptions. >>> 1. Tell the teacher to write in your note book or tell her to tell >>> someone to write for you . >>> 2. By a digital recorder or a angel voice recorder. >>> It will be useful. >>> >>> RGDS, >>> >>> Phen Varghese >>> >>> On 12/1/11, Rahul Bajaj <[email protected]> wrote: >>>> Yeah, that is a good idea. >>>> Even I was thinking that I should do that after 12th. >>>> Usually, when the sighted escort is not available, I go with my driver >>>> only. >>>> A driver is more than enough. >>>> But the only problem is that I need someone to note down what is >>>> taught in the class. >>>> >>>> On 01/12/2011, Asudani, Rajesh <[email protected]> wrote: >>>>> Good Rahul. >>>>> My theory about escorts says that totally blind person should opt for >>>>> escort >>>>> if the escort is available, affordable and there are no privacy >>>>> concerns. >>>>> In your case, escort is available/affordable. >>>>> But there are privacy concerns. >>>>> >>>>> However, Rahul, when you have a driver, I don't think you require a >>>>> separate >>>>> sighted escort. >>>>> Driver can drop you wherever you wish and then mobility inside is not >>>>> such >>>>> a >>>>> big issue. >>>>> Friends and people around are sufficient. >>>>> >>>>> So, with a driver, I do not think you need a separate escort. >>>>> >>>>> Learning basic handling of cane etc. is of course called for. >>>>> I advocate escorts mainly for outside mobility which is of course >>>>> reduced >>>>> in >>>>> your case, since you use a private transport with a fixed driver. >>>>> >>>>> >>>>> >>>>> -----Original Message----- >>>>> From: [email protected] >>>>> [mailto:[email protected]] On Behalf Of Rahul > Bajaj >>>>> Sent: Thursday, December 01, 2011 2:19 PM >>>>> To: [email protected] >>>>> Subject: Re: [AI] Socialising >>>>> >>>>> Rajesh Sir, >>>>> >>>>> I completely agree with you. >>>>> In fact, even I think that privacy can be an issue when one is with an >>>>> escort. >>>>> >>>>> It is for this reason that I always try to ensure that my friends >>>>> don't feel like they're being constantly scrutinized by an outsider. >>>>> Once, when a very good sighted friend of mine had called me for his >>>>> birthday party, I asked my sighted guide to drop me to the place where >>>>> I and my friends were going to meet. >>>>> I told him that I would call him after the party and asked him to wait >>>>> in the car till then. >>>>> >>>>> On another occasion, when me and my friends went for a movie, I asked >>>>> my sighted guide to drop me to my seat and to go and sit at a >>>>> different place. >>>>> >>>>> Am I doing enough? >>>>> Is there anything else that you can suggest to deal with this issue of >>>>> privacy? >>>>> >>>>> BTW, which are the other requirements of your theory about >>>>> desirability of escorts? :) >>>>> >>>>> >>>>> >>>>> >>>>> >>>>> On 01/12/2011, Rahul Bajaj <[email protected]> wrote: >>>>>> Ravindra Sir, >>>>>> >>>>>> I really appreciate your suggestions. >>>>>> However, it would be wrong to assert that I'm concentrating on >>>>>> socialising at the cost of my studies. >>>>>> In fact, my parents and others who know me say that my main problem >>>>>> is that I study way too much :P >>>>>> Studies can only take you so far in life. >>>>>> Anyway, thank you for your wishes, and I'll keep your suggestions in >>>>>> mind. >>>>>> >>>>>> On 01/12/2011, Asudani, Rajesh <[email protected]> wrote: >>>>>>> Well, I can fully understand rahul's predicament. >>>>>>> So, advice to concentrate on studies and so on is too, too moralistic >>>>>>> and >>>>>>> beside the point. >>>>>>> >>>>>>> Specifically Rahul, here the third requirement of my theorum about >>>>>>> desirability of escorts is being violated, i.e. the constant sighted >>>>>>> escort >>>>>>> is intruding upon your privacy and your friends may not like it and >>>>>>> consider >>>>>>> you an intrusion. >>>>>>> So, try to restrict your sighted escort to the essential tasks and > not >>>>>>> use >>>>>>> him/her for collective activities such as outings with friends. >>>>>>> I know you will have to work your way to it. >>>>>>> All the best. >>>>>>> >>>>>>> >>>>>>> -----Original Message----- >>>>>>> From: [email protected] >>>>>>> [mailto:[email protected]] On Behalf Of Ravindra >>>>>>> Jadhav >>>>>>> Sent: Wednesday, November 30, 2011 7:00 PM >>>>>>> To: [email protected] >>>>>>> Subject: Re: [AI] Socialising >>>>>>> >>>>>>> High Rahul, >>>>>>> Why do you like someone's company? >>>>>>> I fully agree with this sentence. >>>>>>> I think first of all you concentrate more on your study. >>>>>>> Best of luck for your HSC exam. >>>>>>> Don't thinks negative. >>>>>>> Now see how many reply come to you? >>>>>>> These are all friends, so why are you worry? >>>>>>> >>>>>>> >>>>>>> >>>>>>> On 11/30/11, ekinath ekinath <[email protected]> wrote: >>>>>>>> Hey Rahul, >>>>>>>> >>>>>>>> Got some time from office work so couldn't stop butting in. >>>>>>>> >>>>>>>> All brilliant points except one where there is a need mentioned for >>>>>>>> discussing it out with your friends. In my opinion, should not be >>>>>>>> done >>>>>>>> so, you will only seek sympathy and would emotionally induce your >>>>>>>> friends to hang out with you but they would not get convinced. DO it >>>>>>>> through action and performance. >>>>>>>> >>>>>>>> How? >>>>>>>> Buddy, think little practically by keeping aside depressing emotions >>>>>>>> for a little time. Why do you like someone's company? >>>>>>>> >>>>>>>> Are you getting some answers? >>>>>>>> It's your independence of mobility, body language, personality, >>>>>>>> talking skills, knowledge of relevant things, flexibility and >>>>>>>> rendering help. Cheerful smile and sense of humor attract embrace >>>>>>>> from >>>>>>>> people. >>>>>>>> >>>>>>>> You must be possessing many of above mentioned qualities. Capitalize >>>>>>>> on it. People will not come to you unless they believe that you add >>>>>>>> value to their lives in any which way. To be specific, try to >>>>>>>> normalize your life style as much as you can with your mainstream >>>>>>>> peers. >>>>>>>> >>>>>>>> You should be at least partially independent in mobility to gain >>>>>>>> others confidence in you. >>>>>>>> How do you walk to your place after getting down from your car? >>>>>>>> Who picks up your bag and carry it? >>>>>>>> Does always your aid only find things for you before you extend your >>>>>>>> hands? >>>>>>>> >>>>>>>> Then time to thing and act my friend. >>>>>>>> >>>>>>>> Even though blessed with multiple difficulties, I have lived an >>>>>>>> excellent college life. And those joyous moments and friends are > real >>>>>>>> treasures of my life. Therefore, make the most of it. That time > never >>>>>>>> comes back. >>>>>>>> >>>>>>>> Finally, keep your head high exuberating brilliance, confidence and >>>>>>>> substance with a little smile and things will fall in place. >>>>>>>> >>>>>>>> Good luck >>>>>>>> Do call me on Sundays if need be. I would like to know about a girl >>>>>>>> you >>>>>>>> like. >>>>>>>> Joking. Haha! >>>>>>>> >>>>>>>> Pardon me if you didn't like any of the things mentioned above. >>>>>>>> >>>>>>>> ~Cheers >>>>>>>> >>>>>>>> >>>>>>>> >>>>>>>> >>>>>>>> >>>>>>>> >>>>>>>> On 11/27/11, Rahul Bajaj <[email protected]> wrote: >>>>>>>>> Hi all, >>>>>>>>> >>>>>>>>> I hope you all are well. >>>>>>>>> Like I've mentioned in my earlier posts, I'm 17 and am currently in >>>>>>>>> 12th >>>>>>>>> grade. >>>>>>>>> I have quite a few sighted friends, but I've noticed that they >>>>>>>>> hardly >>>>>>>>> ever call me when they go for movies, have birthday parties or have >>>>>>>>> get-togethers. >>>>>>>>> I feel that my visual impairment is a major reason for this. >>>>>>>>> We have appointed a sighted guide who goes with me everywhere. >>>>>>>>> >>>>>>>>> So, I often get depressed and frustrated when my friends don't call >>>>>>>>> me. >>>>>>>>> In fact, for me, this is the biggest challenge that I currently > have >>>>>>>>> to face due to my visual impairment. >>>>>>>>> I can't even ask my friends if they don't call me because of my >>>>>>>>> visual >>>>>>>>> problem, because none of them will ever admit it. >>>>>>>>> >>>>>>>>> So, has anyone here faced this problem? >>>>>>>>> Please share your views and suggestions. >>>>>>>>> >>>>>>>>> Cheers, >>>>>>>>> Rahul >>>>>>>>> >>>>>>>>> >>>>>>>>> Search for old postings at: >>>>>>>>> http://www.mail-archive.com/[email protected]/ >>>>>>>>> >>>>>>>>> To unsubscribe send a message to >>>>>>>>> [email protected] >>>>>>>>> with the subject unsubscribe. >>>>>>>>> >>>>>>>>> To change your subscription to digest mode or make any other >>>>>>>>> changes, >>>>>>>>> please >>>>>>>>> visit the list home page at >>>>>>>>> > http://accessindia.org.in/mailman/listinfo/accessindia_accessindia.org.in >>>>>>>>> >>>>>>>>> >>>>>>>> >>>>>>>> >>>>>>>> -- >>>>>>>> "The waves breaking on the surface draw all the attention, >>>>>>>> but it is the current beneath the water that determines your >>>>>>>> direction." >>>>>>>> >>>>>>>> >>>>>>>> Search for old postings at: >>>>>>>> http://www.mail-archive.com/[email protected]/ >>>>>>>> >>>>>>>> To unsubscribe send a message to >>>>>>>> [email protected] >>>>>>>> with the subject unsubscribe. >>>>>>>> >>>>>>>> To change your subscription to digest mode or make any other > changes, >>>>>>>> please >>>>>>>> visit the list home page at >>>>>>>> > http://accessindia.org.in/mailman/listinfo/accessindia_accessindia.org.in >>>>>>>> >>>>>>>> >>>>>>> >>>>>>> >>>>>>> Search for old postings at: >>>>>>> http://www.mail-archive.com/[email protected]/ >>>>>>> >>>>>>> To unsubscribe send a message to >>>>>>> [email protected] >>>>>>> with the subject unsubscribe. >>>>>>> >>>>>>> To change your subscription to digest mode or make any other changes, >>>>>>> please >>>>>>> visit the list home page at >>>>>>> > http://accessindia.org.in/mailman/listinfo/accessindia_accessindia.org.in >>>>>>> >>>>>>> >>>>>>> Notice: This email and any files transmitted with it are confidential >>>>>>> and >>>>>>> intended solely for the use of the individual or entity to whom they >>>>>>> are >>>>>>> addressed. 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