More importantly, when we become adults, our ego starts growing phenomenally.
Sexual development causes us to believe that we have to become confident and have to dominate the world. The ego automatically starts becoming bigger and bigger because of hormones overflowing. Hot young blood of youth makes us angry and our minds are more alert, filled with lots of desires and dreams. The animal nature in us comes to its fullest. Sexual hunger arises and we start looking for a girlfriend. We want to have sharper and more intelligent minds that can make loads of money and control people. We look for status and prestige and social networks to support our sexual life. So far, we identify only with our body and our mind. Our bodies have a lot of needs to survive in society. Being with a woman, our ego is boosted even more. She starts to make you believe as if you are the most wonderful person in the world. The woman makes you feel on top of the world only to bring you down repeatedly. This causes a lot of suffering and to question the system that society has set for us to follow. This is when the question arises, what is reality. and how should i live my life. Suffering arises with the identity with the body which continually changes. You are not the body. You knew this when you were a child of one year, just wondering at the miracle of life. But when you grow up, your sense of "I am" ness develops. The ego grows naturally as a consequence of the genes and the hormonal activity. It is all good. But the misidentification with this shitty pyshical chaos called the body is what makes our life miserable. Our bodies are just disgusting sticky slimy smelly masses of meat and bones. But we love them so much. On Sat, Aug 21, 2010 at 10:23 AM, roomsearching <[email protected]>wrote: > First we have to spend a long time of our life experiencing pleasure and > pain. > > We have to get our basics of life first to see any pattern to it. > > You cannot do this meditation when you are 10 years old. You need to have a > lot of life experience. > > With pain and pleasure, with suffering, our personality develops. > > First, the ego has to form. The awareness has to develop. > > A child has no awareness. And it does not question anything. Children are > in ignorance. > > We grow up with the simple worldview of I and this world.There is a clear > distinction between I and the world. > > This seperation clearly creates suffering - duality. > > Finally the world view changes and we realize that everything is one. > > There is no world. There is only me. There are no others. > > On Sat, Aug 21, 2010 at 9:08 AM, <[email protected]> wrote: > >> Isn't it funny? We need suffering to be able to get rid of it. >> >> Sent via BlackBerry from Vodafone >> ------------------------------ >> *From: * roomsearching <[email protected]> >> *Date: *Sat, 21 Aug 2010 03:46:01 +0100 >> *To: *<[email protected]> >> *Cc: *Advaita<[email protected]> >> *Subject: *Re: Why suddenly one chooses to do the I am sense watching >> >> Why suddenly one chooses to do the "I am" sense watching ? >> >> It is not sudden. It happens after a lot of suffering. >> >> A search for truth finally starts. >> >> >> >> >> >> >> >> >> On Thu, Aug 19, 2010 at 9:05 AM, <[email protected]> wrote: >> >>> I think one has to be deluded a 'million' times by entertaining thoughts >>> in order to suddenly understand this always leads to delusion. I had to try >>> all the shit before I convinced my mind that every field of thought leads to >>> delusion. Nobody was able to convince me until I tried all the shit myself. >>> After that once I've really tried the I am sense watching and I saw that is >>> the only path which produces 'results', it was all finished. >>> What I want to emphasise here is the importance of learning by one's own >>> experience, the importance of suffering as the thing which tells you where >>> not to go, the importance of getting burnt after touching fire, a million >>> times, until you realize you won't touch it again. >>> The imprtance of other people advice (even guru's advice) is limited in >>> comparison to one's own try-fail-try- succeed exercise. >>> Sent via BlackBerry from Vodafone >>> >> >> >
