People usually exhibit denial --> anger --> negotiation --> acceptance. All various coping strategies. Michael.
> Date: Sun, 2 Aug 2015 13:30:52 -0400 > Subject: Re: [agi] Defining "frustration" > From: [email protected] > To: [email protected] > > I think the main reasons psychological denial takes place is because > of some ego-preserving need or due to an inability to come up with a > reasonable response when the first brush of awareness occurs. > > In a response, someone once told me, "your paradox was stupid." When I > told him that I did not mean it as a paradox he replied, "Of course > you did." He denied my explanation of what I had said just because it > invalidated his criticism that it was stupid. If he tended to think > that what other people said were stupid then he might have had to > characterize his criticism as 'stupid' according to his way of > characterizing things. I think he couldn't do that because he never > characterized anything that he said as being 'stupid'. > > The insight that I just had recently was that denial may start off as > a return to an habitual way of thinking about something. So if you > can't come up with a good response you might look for other ways to > explain what happened in order to find a more well-formed way to > respond. Here, denial is a technical strategy to look at the problem > in a way that allows you to use the best tools that you have. I think > that may be what you were saying. But if denial is often used and it > is used in a way that prevents you from learning new ways to look at a > kind of problem, then the denial that the denial-strategy isn't > working has to start kicking in. So the habitual use of an ineffective > strategy of denial will tend to produce more overlapping layers of > denial. > > Jim Bromer > > On Sun, Aug 2, 2015 at 2:34 AM, Piaget Modeler > <[email protected]> wrote: > > > > In my view, denial is a coping strategy that supports recovery from failure > > by > > re-attempting an existing failed solution or failed explanation simply > > because > > circumstances may change, even when all other applicable or relevant > > solutions > > have already failed. > > > > ~PM > > > > > ------------------------------------------- > AGI > Archives: https://www.listbox.com/member/archive/303/=now > RSS Feed: https://www.listbox.com/member/archive/rss/303/19999924-4a978ccc > Modify Your Subscription: https://www.listbox.com/member/?&; > Powered by Listbox: http://www.listbox.com ------------------------------------------- AGI Archives: https://www.listbox.com/member/archive/303/=now RSS Feed: https://www.listbox.com/member/archive/rss/303/21088071-f452e424 Modify Your Subscription: https://www.listbox.com/member/?member_id=21088071&id_secret=21088071-58d57657 Powered by Listbox: http://www.listbox.com
