18 years fan-hood of ARR does have its few points of discord. One recent one had meet my utter condemnation of Chiggy-wiggy.
Since then, it has not even a full year, and ARR has given us Kata Kata. And Kata Kata has: -- Chhoto koi devar hoy to chhaati laagiye (if there is any younger brother of the husband, keep him close to your heart like your own son) Aur saas sasur ke aadar keeje paanye laagiye e e e (and pay respect to father and mother of the husband, touch their feet) Re jaith jaithani samjhaave to maathe raakhije re (if elder brother of husband and his wife teaches something, etch that in your mind) Aur nandan ki saheli jaisi saath raakhiye re, o chori sun, saath raakhijo ra (and keep the sisters of husband with you like your friends, listen, o girl, keep them with you) -- A complete contrast the above has with chiggy-wiggy. Chiggy-wiggy was demeaning women, presenting them as brainless objects to be won over by cheap, streetsmart tactics of males for their pleasure, all this going contrary to the things that ARR stands for. Kata Kata has suggetions/ instructions/ tips/ prompts that every Indian mother tells her Indian daughter on wedding when the daughter goes to a new home for the first time - the home of her husband. It is holding the key how to keep the family together, instead of breaking the bonds and snatching the husband from him family and establishing a personal home for herself. I can feel every Indian buzurg (elder men and women) nodding their head in deep-felt approval on hearing it. It is nothing new, they themselves have been told the same at their own wedding, and they themselves have told the same to their sons and daughters at their weddings. It is pure indianness. And it covers so many aspects of Indian marriages that it is like an audio-visual summary of what all happens in Indian marriages. groom's male friends are teasing the groom, calling him a goat getting sacrificed, brides' female friends are teasing the groom giving him "funde" to do physical exercise to build his body, ladies of the bride's family are listing the great qualities of their daughter (paro se bhi halki hai) while males of groom's side teasing their bhabhi (khatti hai), ladies of bride's family are pleading to the groom to safeguard and treat the bride with respect (bohari lagaiyyo na), pandit ji is having his priorities kanya ko bulaao, muhurt nikla ja raha hai, ladies of bride's family are abusing and mocking the groom calling him of black complexion by negation, comparing him to crow, in hindi belt there is a reallife ceremony called gali dena (abusing) when ladies of bride's family do use demeaning words in songs to mock at groom and his family. Kudos to ARR and Gulzar saab for creating a song that is going to be National Matrimonial Anthem. It is going to be played at every marriage hundreds of times, and why not, it have elements for every occasion in an Indian marriage. This song is what ARR himself personifies unlike chiggy-wiggy. ARR will be proud to be the creator of this song unlike chiggy-wiggy. Hope comparing Kata Kata with chiggy-wiggy will make the contrast clear to you. Kata Kata redeems Indian values that were inadvertently cheapened by Chiggy-Wiggy -- Related issue: I wonder what is in the song that Narendra Modi disapproved for Gujarat. Kata Kata shows that ARR has all the capabilities to come with a song full of Indianness, so ARR could come with a song full of Gujarat-ness. Even Kata Kata itself represents gujarat wedding like any Indian wedding. Instead of outright rejecting a song, they should have told ARR individual elements that they approve and disapprove of in the song, and let him modify according to the feedback. It would have culminated into a great song for Gujarat and a treat for music lovers. Sad that Narendra Modi acted so high-handedly. -- Rawat
