If someone's behavior on-list is bothering you, maybe you should try to
send a polite request for the person to change their behavior. You can
do it off-list if you're more comfortable with that, or on-list if you'd
prefer, or privately but cc anyone who wouldn't mind being cc'ed on such
an e-mail. If you're not sure that what you've drafted is good, you can
always go to some other listmember off-list whose judgement you trust.
(I've done that in the past.)
I've seen all sorts of pissiness in response to behavior that the
pissed-off one didn't like, but I haven't seen very much in the way of
polite and respectful requests. (Having not seen very much doesn't mean
I haven't seen *any*, just that I've seen it significantly less often
than the complaining, for anyone inclined to throw counterexamples at
me. If you still want to throw counterexamples at me, I'd prefer you do
it off-list, so we don't get more bandwidth wasted on complaints about
the bandwidth wasted on *that* venture.)
So, those of you who are getting all worked up about other people's
behavior, could you please try to nicely ask people to modify their
behavior? I'd really appreciate it. Thank you.
Julia
