Addendum [not really, nice latinate word though]: >> And even then, the way out is for someone to directly talk to you in explicit terms, as if you had the free will to do so, and even if you don't think you have the free will to do so [oh, geez, the world will end or something]. <<
I am an inactive member of the SJSU honor fraternity, Tau Delta Phi. I had a terrible experience there, and one nice Chinese student even advised me not to join beforehand. When one guy physically through me out, I took the hint and hardly ever contact or refer to them anymore. Serves them or me right. I don't know why I feel I have to mention this [geez the world might end or something]. That to me is an explicit communication by action, and why I refer to myself as an inactive member. But when you use words, you should use words and not "hint" because hints are really stupid if your aim is to get a message across to someone. Tell them the truth in no uncertain terms if you feel strongly about it. God, or what have you, the .260 universe, won't mind or care. [take my advice or leave it, but you'll get a better reaction from me if you take my advice] Mark
