"J. van Baardwijk" wrote:
>
> At 16:17 15-07-2002 -0500, Dan Minette wrote:
>
> >No one forces you to spam. Only you think its a viable alternative.
>
> As if I have much of a choice. I cannot e-mail him off-list because of a
> filter he set that bounces my messages back. Therefore, the alternatives
> are (1) keep asking on-list, or (2) drag him to court and sue him for every
> penny he's got.
Jeroen, I think you have options other than the ones you enumerate
above.
You cannot control Erik.
He is not causing you any immediate physical harm.
The only thing you can truly control in this situation is your mental
and emotional response to him. He's not "making" you do anything; you
are choosing to react to him in the manner you are.
This can be a difficult thing to internalize; I know from personal
experience that it's a lot easier to just say, "Oh, you're choosing to
react the way you are," and a lot harder to make another choice
sometimes, but *it* *can* *be* *done*. (Sometimes a disinterested party
to help you think things through can help.)
Julia
