Where are you? You in nyc or mass? On Jan 4, 2013 5:47 PM, "Maia McCormick" <[email protected]> wrote:
> Perhaps this very discussion/movement is a sign that there is a need for > change. While I respect the value of the traditional terms, and how much > easier they make things for everyone, I certainly understand how they can > be constraining and frustrating for those of us who like a) switching roles > and/or b) switching gender/gender presentation. > > Perhaps this is a minority forcing their views on others. But I see it as > small potatoes compared to said majority constantly forcing their views on > us. Sometimes it's a pain to be gender- or role-noncomformist in this > society. The feeling of being a young woman at a dance, following the lead > of a man who dances far too close for comfort, or being a man who dances > follow and is constantly told that he's in the wrong place, or partnering > with your same sex friend only to be told "there are two men dancing > together over there, why don't you just split up and dance with each > other!" as if no one would want a same-sex dance couple if there were any > other option available, or being a transperson who is intrusively asked > their sex when they ask someone to dance. And yes, I've made this point > hyperbolically, but my point is: if a minority seems to be "forcing" its > views on a majority, it is often just push-back for 99x that > forcing-of-views from the past, that doesn't seem like view-forcing > precisely *because* it comes from a majority. But in a certain sense, the > use of gendered contra terms is just that, we've just ceased to notice it > as such. > > A last thought: everything is social engineering, because social forces are > at work in everything. > > On Thu, Jan 3, 2013 at 11:29 AM, <[email protected]> wrote: > > > Who the heck are we to force our views > > on others? Things will change if there is a reason for them to change. > > Dancing is PLAY, not a means for social engineering. > > > _______________________________________________ > Callers mailing list > [email protected] > http://www.sharedweight.net/mailman/listinfo/callers >
