[posting because I feel like geeking about communication styles rather than because I care much about this particular thread]
On Sat, Feb 15, 2014, Greg McKenzie wrote: > > I seldom call for such experienced groups. Consequently I use > structured calls more than most callers do to maintain the confidence > of newcomers. I should have been more clear in my post, and I should > have anticipated that some folks might take it personally. I'm sorry > about that. As a policy I try to avoid taking anything posted here > personally unless it has my name on it. What people perceive as personal varies widely. Civility also varies widely, and I for one often see calls for civility as another form of the tone argument: http://geekfeminism.wikia.com/wiki/Tone_argument Following up your faux pas with a call for civility after you got attacked for your mistake does very little to settle ruffled feathers. (Speaking as someone who does more than my fair share of feather ruffling -- I have a lot of experience.) In fact, it's arguably a form of nonpology: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Non-apology_apology -- Hugs and backrubs -- I break Rule 6 http://rule6.info/ <*> <*> <*> Help a hearing-impaired person: http://rule6.info/hearing.html
