John, I like what you said: "To do more certainly would be best with permission, awareness of offered assistance." This might be also be one of the way to give him/her a hint that there is a problem and that we are willing to help solve the said problem.
Claire. On Tue, Mar 7, 2017 at 3:49 PM, Ron Blechner via Callers < callers@lists.sharedweight.net> wrote: > I'd love to hear suggestions on how to approach a dancer like the one in > question, and broach the subject. > > -Ron Blechner > > On Mar 7, 2017 1:20 PM, "JD Erskine via Callers" < > callers@lists.sharedweight.net> wrote: > >> On 2017-03-07 0627, Martha Wild via Callers wrote: >> >>> I’d like to add another point to Neal’s reasoning: >>> >>> As a 5 foot 1 inch woman dancer (and a caller), I can also add that the >>> female of the human species is known to generally be smaller than the >>> male. >>> >> >> major snip >> >> In general, then, it’s a lot >>> easier for a big guy to gently direct a small mixed-up woman in the >>> right direction, than it is for me to change the course of the Titanic >>> once it starts blundering among the icebergs. That is definitely another >>> reason people tend to notice the problem with male dancers more. But we >>> have had at least one large dancing-challenged woman whose size made it >>> equally difficult to direct - I occasionally tried dancing as the man >>> with her, but gave it up because it hurt my arms too much. >>> >> >> Martha >>> >> >> George Marshall was in town in the autumn. A teaching point that stood >> out for me in his pre-dance/inclusivity workshop was, that if someone is >> still/stationary it's more difficult to move them or guide them to where >> they might go. >> >> If someone is dancing (simply in motion of some sort), even if in a place >> other than expected, they may be directed more easily. >> >> (I keep thinking an air-hockey table at work, however I'm from "up here".) >> >> If our male dancer in question is lumbering, stiff, not moving much, and >> can/may move, then assisting him in that might help make it easier to >> direct him more in the normal flow of the dance. >> >> To do more certainly would be best with permission, awareness of offered >> assistance. >> >> Cheers, John >> -- >> J.D. Erskine >> Victoria, BC >> >> Island Dance - Folk & Country >> dance info - site & mail list >> Vancouver Island & BC islands >> >> http://vecds.ca/island.dance/ >> _______________________________________________ >> Callers mailing list >> Callers@lists.sharedweight.net >> http://lists.sharedweight.net/listinfo.cgi/callers-sharedweight.net >> > > _______________________________________________ > Callers mailing list > Callers@lists.sharedweight.net > http://lists.sharedweight.net/listinfo.cgi/callers-sharedweight.net > > -- *Claire*