LOL yea CP won't work with ADHD most of the time. Especially if they have it with aggressive behavior that some kids get. I couldn't do anything physical with megan because she did not have the attention span either way to know what the hell i was hitting her for.
On Mon, 21 Mar 2005 11:50:18 -0700, Dana <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > Welp, I have smacked my kids and frankly I think it did me more good > than them. So I agree with you. One exception is that when Lara was a > toddler she had REAL issues in focussing and sometimes a small smack > upside the head as they say, got her attention, as in, hey you, do you > hear your mother saying DON'T PLAY WITH THE CAMPFIRE? > > While I see little wrong with minor corporal punishment I don't think > it is the best solution, ever, with the possible exception of the > above. Nor do I consider a belt to be especially minor either... > but my experience with spanking was that the child would either get > angry or upset and rarely associated the punishment with the misdeed. > Now, both my kids are adhd-diagnosed and so other people's mileage may > vary. > > Dana > > On Mon, 21 Mar 2005 12:40:59 -0600, Deanna Schneider > <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > > Yah, it's Skinner-esque, and like I said, I won't gaurantee that I'll > > never swat him. But, I do hope that if I do it's not out of anger or > > frustration - which I think is how most people use physical > > punishment. I mean, I'd never hit my husband just because I'm mad at > > him. Why would I hit my child? > > > > On Mon, 21 Mar 2005 13:02:56 -0500, Jim Davis > > <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > > > > -----Original Message----- > > > > From: Deanna Schneider [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED] > > > > Sent: Monday, March 21, 2005 12:37 PM > > > > To: CF-Community > > > > Subject: Re: You know it's been a tough day at kindergarten when ... > > > > > > > > Well, I still don't really believe in hitting. I watched an > > > > interaction between a dad and daughter in the aiport the other day. > > > > Long story short, he swatted her on the butt, and her response to was > > > > to hit him back. > > > > > > True - but it can also be effective if done right. What I think most > > > parents miss is the "Set up". You just can't hit and expect it to be > > > effective. Just plain hitting provokes the playground response to hit > > > back. > > > > > > Hitting/spanking/whatever should be a planned punishment like any other - > > > even if that plan is short. Both of my kids have been swatted. But > > > before > > > I do I tell them about it, then I count to three. After "three" they got > > > the swat. > > > > > > In very short order only the counting was needed well over 99% of the > > > time. > > > (With that very occasional carry-through to reinforce things.) > > > > > > My father's case was similar - my grandfather used the belt. Just the > > > action of unbuckling would deal with most problems. > > > > > > It's all very Skinnerian but it seems to work for us. > > > > > > Jim Davis > > > > > > > > > > > > ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~| Purchase Flash MX Pro from House of Fusion, a Macromedia Authorized Affiliate and support the CF community. http://www.houseoffusion.com/banners/view.cfm?bannerid=57 Message: http://www.houseoffusion.com/lists.cfm/link=i:5:151147 Archives: http://www.houseoffusion.com/cf_lists/threads.cfm/5 Subscription: http://www.houseoffusion.com/lists.cfm/link=s:5 Unsubscribe: http://www.houseoffusion.com/cf_lists/unsubscribe.cfm?user=89.70.5 Donations & Support: http://www.houseoffusion.com/tiny.cfm/54
