> Hm, I'm not sure the that monogamy = disneyism. > I mean, I'm monogamous, but I have lots of > friends, each of whom fulfill a different role > for me. The only way in which I'm monogamous > is that only one tab A gets inserted into slot > B, so to speak. I'd agree that becoming insular > as a nuclear family is a dangerous proposition.
I didn't mean to imply that I felt there was a 1 to 1 relationship between monogamy and the Disneyism... merely that I feel the Disneyism is the direction our culture seems to be headed / leaning... and that as time passes and that becomes more the case, it's increasingly damaging to the culture as a whole and to the individuals in it. Many of us don't see this -- and I wouldn't expect many of us to see it necessarily... at least not at first... the people who are going to notice it first are going to be those lucky disaffected individuals like myself who've grown up with an insular nuclear family and know what a struggle it is to try to create a social network for yourself once you've become an adult, where most adults (at least in my anecdotal experience) seem to have gradually developed their social networks from an early age. My father I think is fond of the idea that "hell is other people" and so growing up insulated wasn't really something I had much choice about. He claimed he never wanted us to have friends over because the house was a land-fill, but then he never did anything to help clean it up. Actually he routinely trashed whatever room he happened to be in whenever he got angry. My abused (and hypochondriac) mother would do what so many abuse victims do and clean up after him... didn't change the fact that the house was a land-fill... I know that I was catatonic as a child on at least one occasion after seeing my father threaten suicide with a knife in the kitchen. I have to wonder if any of this would have happened in an extended-family environment. In what large family does the house remain a land-fill for years on end? There's typically at least one person who takes charge to make sure that doesn't happen right? They typicall look after one-another don't they? Make sure they're not threatening to stab themselves or becoming catatonic from shock? Hell isn't other people... Hell is growing up with someone who believed it. Sorry... I'll stop now... s. isaac dealey 954.522.6080 new epoch : isn't it time for a change? add features without fixtures with the onTap open source framework http://www.fusiontap.com http://coldfusion.sys-con.com/author/4806Dealey.htm ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~| Find out how CFTicket can increase your company's customer support efficiency by 100% http://www.houseoffusion.com/banners/view.cfm?bannerid=49 Message: http://www.houseoffusion.com/lists.cfm/link=i:5:167101 Archives: http://www.houseoffusion.com/cf_lists/threads.cfm/5 Subscription: http://www.houseoffusion.com/lists.cfm/link=s:5 Unsubscribe: http://www.houseoffusion.com/cf_lists/unsubscribe.cfm?user=11502.10531.5 Donations & Support: http://www.houseoffusion.com/tiny.cfm/54
