yeah but she probably also feels guilty for being angry. All in all it's a very unhappy situation...
On 1/3/06, Chesty Puller <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > Thanks, Dana. We're very sad, but to be honest, the wife is also mad at him > since she has been expecting this to happen since she was old enough to > understand. Smoking for 25 years will certainly lead to lung cancer. Now > she's worried that the second-hand smoke from him will end her own life > sooner than it should be. > > - Matt > > > ----- Original Message ----- > From: "Dana" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> > To: "CF-Community" <[email protected]> > Sent: Tuesday, January 03, 2006 10:58 PM > Subject: Re: Smoking was: New Years Resolutions > > > > Matt > > > > I just read the whole post. I am really sorry you and your wife are > > going through this. > > > > Dana > > > > On 1/3/06, Chesty Puller <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > >> Yes, PLEASE stop smoking, for yourself, your wife, and the rest of your > >> family. > >> > >> My father-in-law was diagnosed with lung cancer in just this past > >> October. > >> They immediately put him on radiation and chemotherapy. > >> > >> In November, the doctor gave him a at most one year to live, if > >> everything > >> went WELL. I was told that 70% of lung cancer patients die within one > >> year. > >> > >> On Christmas day, he was feeling particularly awful, so we loaded him up > >> and > >> took him to the hospital. > >> > >> They operated on him to remove fluid from the lungs. However, after the > >> surgury, they were not able to get the infected lung to reinflate. They > >> had > >> him on a ventilator to keep him alive. Three times they tried to remove > >> it, > >> only to have to put it right back in. > >> > >> The rest of his body, while not great, is still kicking with no real > >> problems. He's conscious, he can communicate, he's thinking fine. His > >> lungs are dead. He was caught in between life and death - he's alive > >> only > >> because the ventilator was keeping him alive, and that's no life. > >> > >> On New Year's Eve, my mother-in-law made the decision to remove him from > >> the > >> ventilator. We were all there - his wife (53 years old), his daughter > >> (my > >> wife, 25 years old), his son (20 years old), myself, his sister, and her > >> husband. We stood around him after they removed the ventilator and cried > >> as > >> his body gasped for air that his lungs could not provide. Somehow, he's > >> managed to stay alive, and is even speaking a little. The doctors are > >> surprised, we were all surprised, but the fact remains that his body is > >> still broken with at most one lung at partial capacity. > >> > >> It's like watching a media stream where the incoming content is set at an > >> extremely high bit rate and you're on dial-up. Only this is going to > >> kill > >> him. > >> > >> I do not know how long he will remain alive. > >> > >> I implore you, and anybody else who smokes, and cares about the family > >> around him, to stop smoking. Quit cold turkey. Don't do it. Get the > >> patch. > >> Chew gum. Have your jaw wired shut. Just stop smoking. > >> > >> It is going to kill you before you want to die. It is not a death like > >> you > >> see in the movies - where someone gracefully passes away. It's ugly, and > >> your family will be left far sadder than you'd ever expect. > >> > >> - Matt > >> > >> > >> ----- Original Message ----- > >> From: "Paul Ihrig" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> > >> To: "CF-Community" <[email protected]> > >> Sent: Tuesday, January 03, 2006 6:07 PM > >> Subject: Re: New Years Resolutions > >> > >> > >> > get my pant waist to a solid 38 - or dream 36. > >> > weight under 200 > >> > > >> > quit smoking > >> > > >> > stop drinking beer on school nights. > >> > > >> > o and have a baby.... > >> > > >> > > >> > >> > > > > > > ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~| Discover CFTicket - The leading ColdFusion Help Desk and Trouble Ticket application http://www.houseoffusion.com/banners/view.cfm?bannerid=48 Message: http://www.houseoffusion.com/lists.cfm/link=i:5:190316 Archives: http://www.houseoffusion.com/cf_lists/threads.cfm/5 Subscription: http://www.houseoffusion.com/lists.cfm/link=s:5 Unsubscribe: http://www.houseoffusion.com/cf_lists/unsubscribe.cfm?user=89.70.5 Donations & Support: http://www.houseoffusion.com/tiny.cfm/54
