please stop this. I am sure I am not the only person wincing here. This is not a court of law where we have to calculate percentages of reponsibility. The other night was a train wreck and you both contributed.
Just. Let. It. Go. Both. Of. You. Please. >I've had some time for introspection. Personally I find that the >writing process > >helps me to deconstruct my thoughts and my emotions, so I'm preparing >to post my > >deconstructed thoughts in another thread. > >Before I do that I want to make a few things perfectly clear: > >I am a man of my word. I have read the recent entries on these threads >via the > >archives (it's mildly frustrating to guess who's saying what in some >cases). I > >will continue to answer personal email. > >I did not >- get punkd >- run away >- back down >- lose a fight > >I am not a child. I was not then and am not now fighting anyone. I was >then and am > >now engaging in conversation (however confrontational it might have >been). > >I was not intimidated and no one "put me in my place". Had I been >intimidated I > >would have posted a lip-service apology on cf-talk as had been >requested (and may > >have called the police as was suggested by Tim). As with anyone else, >had I been > >intimidated any apology I may have appeared to make would not have >been a genuine > >apology. As such imo it's better that I was not intimidated, since I >was able to > >offer a genuine apology motivated by my own feeling that my comments >warranted an > >apology. You'll all have to make up your own mind whether you believe >I was > >intimidated or you believe the apology was genuine, because the two >are mutually > >exclusive. > >The strangest correction I have is to Tim's apparent cognitive >dissonance over my > >job search situation. Yes, Tim sent me a lead or two. In spite of what >he's said, > >I contacted them and as far as I recall none of the leads Tim sent me >said I > >expected too much money (Tim, feel free to rebut if you have an email >that > >contradicts this). On the contrary they offered me potentially more >than what I > >described as my minimum salary. I have been told by one or two people >that I want > >too much money, but they are in the minority and none of them were >leads from Tim. > >One of them expected me to be grateful for a job in Richmond at $20k >less than my > >last full-time job, so I find it difficult to take her seriously when >there are > >other people offering me what I'm asking or more. > >As I've said before, I don't spend all my time wallowing in >self-pitty. I address > >my problems with action, when action is fruitless I vent my >frustrations and I > >move on to the next problem. > >Oh and... where did anybody get the bizarre notion that I was >complaining about > >people using personal information about me in their replies? I pointed >out in a > >previous thread that I don't consider the job situation to be relevant >in these > >matters. I was no more than annoyed by Tim's having dragged it over to >cf-talk > >where it doesn't belong in an attempt to ruin my career. I was amazed >he had the > >gaul to drag my girlfriend into it and think that was just peachy -- >she did > >nothing to him or anyone else. I have however posted personal >information on the > >list, and just as it is available for people to use against me in live > >conversation it's also available for people to use against me here and >I accept > >responsibility for that. I don't recall ever telling anyone it was >unethical or > >even not to use it. I do recall rebutting certain specific points, >although I > >simply ignored many comments simply because I didn't consider them >relevant and > >was limiting the amount of time I spent on responses. > >Others have expressed different opinions about my having been >dissected in this > >way, and I see their concern in spite of the fact that I personally am >not more > >than annoyed by it. I would be more concerned that others would be put >off by the > >threats of physical violence that I dismissed. > >I have not yet reinstated my subscription preferences, so I'm still >reading the > >list via the archives. I probably won't reinstate them for a month, >less because > >of the need for introspection and more because I expect to be in a >hotel on > >contract for much of the next month (and without a laptop), and will >probably also > >change my cf-talk preferences because I don't expect to have much >access to email. > >After this contract things will change of course, I'll probably be out >of state, > >but I hope to be picking up a laptop and maybe taking my desktop with >me. At that > >point I'll figure out whether I have time to be involved in the >community list > >based on my workload and living situation. > >s. isaac dealey 434.293.6201 >new epoch : isn't it time for a change? > >add features without fixtures with >the onTap open source framework > >http://www.fusiontap.com >http://coldfusion.sys-con.com/author/4806Dealey.htm ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~| Message: http://www.houseoffusion.com/lists.cfm/link=i:5:204382 Archives: http://www.houseoffusion.com/cf_lists/threads.cfm/5 Subscription: http://www.houseoffusion.com/lists.cfm/link=s:5 Unsubscribe: http://www.houseoffusion.com/cf_lists/unsubscribe.cfm?user=89.70.5 Donations & Support: http://www.houseoffusion.com/tiny.cfm/54
