Hey Mike, I'll throw this out there... Martial Arts classes...
1) the physical aspects of a good program will wear her out 2) I can only speak to Taekwondo schools, but there's a lot of mental discipline taught, this can and in many cases does roll into the home life, a good instructor will tie belt advancement to performance at school and home. 3) Many kids respond to an authority figure outside of the parental units and this carries over to mom and dad 4) there's a tangible goal, black belt, that kids can see. 5) I've watched my students turn around, as they mature and buy into the program. Hit me off list and tell me where your located, I can see if there's a USA-Taekwondo school close by (USA-Taekwondo is the national governing body, recognized by the International Olympic Committee, for Taekwondo in the US) -- Scott Stewart ColdFusion Developer 4405 Oakshyre Way Raleigh, NC 27616 (h) 919.874.6229 (c) 703.220.2835 -----Original Message----- From: Michael Dinowitz [mailto:[email protected]] Sent: Thursday, April 30, 2009 9:05 AM To: cf-community Subject: Re: Dealing with disrespectful daughter We are on the same page in essence but in practice Judith lets the kids get away with a LOT more than I do. She was raised by an overprotective mother who gave everything the benefit of the doubt without thought of the actual situation or logic. Judith is very much the same way with the kids. She lets a lot slide and that 'benefit of the doubt' thing really overpowers her at times. "maybe she was sleeping on it. (the book)". My response was that Hinda Tova was awake, laying on top of the hard covered book with her finger in it (a not very comfortable position). The situation was clear to me but for Judith it was a 'but maybe'. She's a better mother than I. Counseling is definitely on our list of things to do, sooner rather than later. And Judith got some good ideas from the lecture last night. Now we just have to apply them. On Thu, Apr 30, 2009 at 8:20 AM, Erika L. Walker <[email protected]>wrote: > > That's what I was gonna ask. When she said "she'd wait for mommy to come > home" it kinda stated that Judith lets her do things you don't - in which > case you aren't on the same page. > > I know it's not cheap - but if you really value your relationship with her > (which we know you do) - go to family counseling for several sessions. It's > worth it in the long run. Really. Treat her like the adult she's trying to > be, and sit her in front of a stranger and the three of you tell them > exactly what you feel - whether you like it or not. > > Hard exercises, but good for you. > > On Wed, Apr 29, 2009 at 9:55 PM, Michael Grant <[email protected]> wrote: > > > Not to dig too deep, but are you and your > > wife on the same page with parenting? Would she pull that stuff if mom > was > > home? > > > > > ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~| Adobe® ColdFusion® 8 software 8 is the most important and dramatic release to date Get the Free Trial http://ad.doubleclick.net/clk;207172674;29440083;f Archive: http://www.houseoffusion.com/groups/cf-community/message.cfm/messageid:296496 Subscription: http://www.houseoffusion.com/groups/cf-community/subscribe.cfm Unsubscribe: http://www.houseoffusion.com/cf_lists/unsubscribe.cfm?user=89.70.5
