+1 billion trillion million Small example - on Facebook, if I see a "friend" repeatedly posting negative thoughts, or dismal depressing attitudes, they get hidden from my feed. And I don't mean people that post once in a blue moon, I'm talking every single post is something bordering on "oh my god, my life sucks, I suck, I'm sick, I have a headache,...etc."
That negativity depresses my soul. For that matter, most of the discussions on here "dampen my soul", which is why I stay out. I read maybe 5% of the posts that come through here anymore. I've read some great books over the years on "surround yourself with people that you want to be like" or if you want to be successful, then hang out with successful people. This is absolutely, 100% true, in every form. In every situation. That I have encountered. I have had to substantially trim the people I used to "surround" myself with, including family, as hard as that can be. Family can be one of the most debilitating forces holding you back. And not that they don't want you to succeed, or have a great life, but just from spreading negativity. This is a pretty decent little summary of it all (there are of course thousands of resources on this subject) http://ezinearticles.com/?You-Become-Who-You-Hang-Out-With&id=295958&opt=print I give you the print version as it's stripped of all the junk. :) On Wed, Jun 16, 2010 at 4:21 PM, Cameron Childress <[email protected]>wrote: > > This makes me think of something I've thought about more and more > lately about the company you keep and it's influence on your life. > Not you specifically Scott, but the broader "you" meaning all of us. > > Social norms are enforced by people around you guiding you through > comments, advice, behavior... If you leave the house dressed like a > slob, a friend or spouse might tell you that you look like a slob and > need to clean up. Bad behavior is shunned in a number of ways, both > subtly and overtly. The group of people you surround yourself with > are the checks and balances that help guide you to knowing what's > right and what's wrong. They help correct you when you get off > course. You do the same for them. > > Occasionally though, someone behaves a certain way and refuses to > observe this advice from their friends. In my observation this > usually leads to consequences. Sometimes these consequences are > irrelevant, somethings they are substantial. > > Now, I don't for one second think that CF-Community is anyone's > primary circle of friends, but we do seek and give each other advice > from time to time. It's interesting to me that in this case the group > seems to be overwhelmingly attempting to guide Scott onto a path that > does not include these Big Brother systems, and that guidance is met > with such hostile denial of well meaning and nearly unanimous advice. > > This is just an observation. Scott you do what you want. > > Human behavior is interesting and unexplainable at times. Sometimes > this list is like people watching at the airport. People do and say > things I would not expect them to. > > An interesting Ted talk I watched recently about the influence of > friends (and friends of friends) on your life. They influence you > alot more than you think... > > > http://www.ted.com/talks/nicholas_christakis_the_hidden_influence_of_social_networks.html > > -Cameron > > ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~| Order the Adobe Coldfusion Anthology now! http://www.amazon.com/Adobe-Coldfusion-Anthology-Michael-Dinowitz/dp/1430272155/?tag=houseoffusion Archive: http://www.houseoffusion.com/groups/cf-community/message.cfm/messageid:321350 Subscription: http://www.houseoffusion.com/groups/cf-community/subscribe.cfm Unsubscribe: http://www.houseoffusion.com/groups/cf-community/unsubscribe.cfm
