my pet peeve is vague-bookers. You know, the ones who post stuff like "I can't believe this is happening to me" and then never let on what "this" is.
I didn't know you could hide friends feeds....I've got some "friends" who need to be muted from my feed. Nobody on this list :) On Thu, Jun 17, 2010 at 9:48 AM, Erika L. Rich <[email protected]> wrote: > > +1 billion trillion million > > Small example - on Facebook, if I see a "friend" repeatedly posting > negative > thoughts, or dismal depressing attitudes, they get hidden from my feed. And > I don't mean people that post once in a blue moon, I'm talking every single > post is something bordering on "oh my god, my life sucks, I suck, I'm sick, > I have a headache,...etc." > > That negativity depresses my soul. > > For that matter, most of the discussions on here "dampen my soul", which is > why I stay out. I read maybe 5% of the posts that come through here > anymore. > > > I've read some great books over the years on "surround yourself with people > that you want to be like" or if you want to be successful, then hang out > with successful people. > > This is absolutely, 100% true, in every form. In every situation. That I > have encountered. > > I have had to substantially trim the people I used to "surround" myself > with, including family, as hard as that can be. Family can be one of the > most debilitating forces holding you back. And not that they don't want you > to succeed, or have a great life, but just from spreading negativity. > > This is a pretty decent little summary of it all (there are of course > thousands of resources on this subject) > > > http://ezinearticles.com/?You-Become-Who-You-Hang-Out-With&id=295958&opt=print > > I give you the print version as it's stripped of all the junk. :) > > > > > On Wed, Jun 16, 2010 at 4:21 PM, Cameron Childress <[email protected] > >wrote: > > > > > This makes me think of something I've thought about more and more > > lately about the company you keep and it's influence on your life. > > Not you specifically Scott, but the broader "you" meaning all of us. > > > > Social norms are enforced by people around you guiding you through > > comments, advice, behavior... If you leave the house dressed like a > > slob, a friend or spouse might tell you that you look like a slob and > > need to clean up. Bad behavior is shunned in a number of ways, both > > subtly and overtly. The group of people you surround yourself with > > are the checks and balances that help guide you to knowing what's > > right and what's wrong. They help correct you when you get off > > course. You do the same for them. > > > > Occasionally though, someone behaves a certain way and refuses to > > observe this advice from their friends. In my observation this > > usually leads to consequences. Sometimes these consequences are > > irrelevant, somethings they are substantial. > > > > Now, I don't for one second think that CF-Community is anyone's > > primary circle of friends, but we do seek and give each other advice > > from time to time. It's interesting to me that in this case the group > > seems to be overwhelmingly attempting to guide Scott onto a path that > > does not include these Big Brother systems, and that guidance is met > > with such hostile denial of well meaning and nearly unanimous advice. > > > > This is just an observation. Scott you do what you want. > > > > Human behavior is interesting and unexplainable at times. Sometimes > > this list is like people watching at the airport. People do and say > > things I would not expect them to. > > > > An interesting Ted talk I watched recently about the influence of > > friends (and friends of friends) on your life. They influence you > > alot more than you think... > > > > > > > http://www.ted.com/talks/nicholas_christakis_the_hidden_influence_of_social_networks.html > > > > -Cameron > > > > > > > ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~| Order the Adobe Coldfusion Anthology now! http://www.amazon.com/Adobe-Coldfusion-Anthology-Michael-Dinowitz/dp/1430272155/?tag=houseoffusion Archive: http://www.houseoffusion.com/groups/cf-community/message.cfm/messageid:321370 Subscription: http://www.houseoffusion.com/groups/cf-community/subscribe.cfm Unsubscribe: http://www.houseoffusion.com/groups/cf-community/unsubscribe.cfm
