What sucks is that I have done every thing I can to help her and the boys. When we got the divorce I gave here the house, car, more money than required, all the furniture and any thing else that would avoid any extra change for the boys. I wanted their home to look the same after I left so things wouldn't feel as different as they really were. Now I have to pay the price for it.
You know it's hard not to get bitter from things like this. Times like this make me feel like I would rather be single for the rest of my life than deal with another woman like that. Phillip B. ----- Original Message ----- From: "Bill Wheatley" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> To: "CF-Community" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> Sent: Thursday, March 06, 2003 9:41 AM Subject: Re: Need some advice > Note to mikeyD The message appeared in the archives but i never got mine > anyone else miss it? > Well the first ones that is? > > > Yea its crap like that makes me want to get a Donated egg and have a taste > tube kid. > Man thats just typical crap that you shouldn't have to put up with. She > should be able to work together for whats best for the kids. And i really > don't think its you thats causing the problem if anything perhaps taking you > to court to fight for the kids because YOU're ruining them in school is just > a way to give her more time to hopefully fix the problem. I personally think > its on her end somewhere but talk to a counselor see what they think. > > Human race might not make it forever if we can't have kids for fear of > people screwing with ya for the rest of your life. > > Good luck to you in your tough situation. > > > ----- Original Message ----- > From: "Phillip B" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> > To: "CF-Community" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> > Sent: Thursday, March 06, 2003 10:07 AM > Subject: RE: Need some advice > > > Thanks Larry. > > > > I feel like she's using it as an excuse too. I just don't know the best way > to handle it. Ever since the divorce it has been a nightmare trying to work > out any issues we may have with the kids. She gets angry with me and then > threatens to take me to court over it. Ugh! > > > > I feel like it will put more stress on the boys by spending less time with > me. She doesn't seem to think so. > > > > I will get in touch with the school and see what they say. At least I might > be able to find out who, if any one, agreed with her on changing the custody > arrangement. > > > > You know its crap like this that makes not want to get married again. > > > > Phillip B > > > > > > > > >Here is the deal. I have been divorced for about two years and have > >two boys that are 6 and 7. About six months after I had moved out my > >ex was living with another man and got married about a year after that > >to him. She has moved around town about 4 times in two years. > > > >Well, my seven year old has been getting in a lot of trouble at school. > >He likes to give a lot of attitude and refuses to do what he is told. > >His mom thinks these problems have a lot to do with the divorce and > >all the things that have happened since then. > > > >She has now come up with a solution to it. She thinks that the boys > >spend to much time at my house and should be at hers more to give them > >a more stable environment. She said she has felt this way for a while > >and that people at the school and else where have said that they > >should spend more time in one place. That all the travel back and > >forth is to much for the kids to handle. > > > >Right now they come over every Wednesday after school until I take > >them to school the next day. Then I get them every othe weekend from > >Friday after school until Monday before school. She wants to change it > >to every other weekend Friday night until Sunday after noon. > > > >I want the best for my boys but I cant see how taking them away from > >me will help. What should I do? > > > >Phillip B. > > > The kid is definately acting out, but from the sounds of it, (I'm no expert > here), its not having to do with your custody arrangements. > > Its my own guess that their moving every few months and the divorce have > more to do with the acting out behavior than their staying over Wednesday > nights and every second weekend. > > I'd contact a good child psychologist and have him or her talk with the > kids. it may be very helpful. You could also talk with the school more and > find out when the most problems occur - Wednesdays and Thursdays. > > I suspect that your ex is using this issue to make a change in custody > arrangments rather than what is best for the kid. > > regards, > > larry > > > ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~| Archives: http://www.houseoffusion.com/cf_lists/index.cfm?forumid=5 Subscription: http://www.houseoffusion.com/cf_lists/index.cfm?method=subscribe&forumid=5 This list and all House of Fusion resources hosted by CFHosting.com. The place for dependable ColdFusion Hosting. Unsubscribe: http://www.houseoffusion.com/cf_lists/unsubscribe.cfm?user=89.70.5
