Hi Millie, I don't know if you know that you are a very mentally strong person. Well, you are.
18's, Marty On Sun, Nov 24, 2013 at 6:36 PM, C.M. Houtz <[email protected]> wrote: > *Marty, this is really good help for those who need it, and I am the > first to admit that there are times I need to tell myself these things. I > do try and it's difficult at times. I don't live in a bubble, but am house > bound most of the time, and that's been for over a year. I hate being > dependent on other people, and honestly try to take care of things myself. > I am a strong individual, but there are times, even the strongest find life > difficult. I feel so much better after reading your message, and will keep > it near by for the days when I feel I need it. Today has been one of those > difficult days as I haven't been able to do much, but, here I am, and I'm > putting supper together, so I was able to do that. I don't blame anyone or > anything as it wouldn't help at all. I try not to feel sorry for myself as > that doesn't work for me. I laugh every chance I get, and try to enjoy > life the way it is, not the way I would like it to be.* > > *I do thank you for all of your input and help. You are truly an > inspiration to all of us.* > > *Hugs, and 18's to you, my friend,* > *Millie* > > ----- Original Message ----- > *From:* Marty Gartenberg <[email protected]> > *To:* [email protected] > *Sent:* Sunday, November 24, 2013 6:17 PM > *Subject:* [CMLHope] Being mentally strong > > > - This is how I became mentally strong. I will be adding some notes to > some of these things. > > > <http://webmaila.juno.com/webmail/new/21?folder=Inbox&msgNum=00002Qk0:001I%5EbYd00002TUp&count=1385331755&randid=1625632958&attachId=0&isUnDisplayableMail=yes&blockImages=0&randid=1625632958#> > - Having CML is very tough not only on your body but also your mind, > and it is how you decide to use your mind to help your body is what really > counts. I would like to try and teach you some ways that you can help > yourself. This is exactly what I did, and it really helped me through a > very difficult time > > 13 Things Mentally Strong People Dont Do > Mentally strong people have healthy habits. They manage their emotions, > thoughts, and behaviors in ways that set them up for success in life. Check > out these things that mentally strong people dont do so that you too can > become more mentally strong. > 1. They Dont Waste Time Feeling Sorry for Themselves > Mentally strong people dont sit around feeling sorry about their > circumstances or how others have treated them. Instead, they take > responsibility for their role in life and understand that life isnt always > easy or fair. > Note: When I was first diagnoised I was frightened to death. I had and > still have a wife and two children. Throughout my bone marrow transplant I > had a lot of doubt about what my future would bring. I would say to myself > "Why me, what did I do to deserve this, it isn't fair" Then I learned > sometimes life isn't fair but I still had to deal with it. > 2. They Dont Give Away Their Power > They dont allow others to control them, and they dont give someone else > power over them. They dont say things like, My boss makes me feel bad, > because they understand that they are in control over their own emotions > and they have a choice in how they respond. > Note: You have the power of your mind, and you know your body better then > anyone else. So learn how to use your own power. > 3. They Dont Shy Away from Change > Mentally strong people dont try to avoid change. Instead, they welcome > positive change and are willing to be flexible. They understand that change > is inevitable and believe in their abilities to adapt. > 4. They Dont Waste Energy on Things They Cant Control > You wont hear a mentally strong person complaining over lost luggage or > traffic jams. Instead, they focus on what they can control in their lives. > They recognize that sometimes, the only thing they can control is their > Attitude. > Note: remember me speaking about ATTITUDE? > 5. They Dont Worry About Pleasing Everyone > Mentally strong people recognize that they dont need to please everyone > all the time. Theyre not afraid to say no or speak up when necessary. They > strive to be kind and fair, but can handle other people being upset if they > didnt make them happy. > 6. They Dont Fear Taking Calculated Risks > They dont take reckless or foolish risks, but dont mind taking calculated > risks. Mentally strong people spend time weighing the risks and benefits > before making a big decision, and theyre fully informed of the potential > downsides before they take action. > 7. They Dont Dwell on the Past > Mentally strong people dont waste time dwelling on the past and wishing > things could be different. They acknowledge their past and can say what > theyve learned from it. However, they dont constantly relive bad > experiences or fantasize about the glory days. Instead, they live for the > present and plan for the future. > 8. They Dont Make the Same Mistakes Over and Over > Mentally strong people accept responsibility for their behavior and learn > from their past mistakes. As a result, they dont keep repeating those > mistakes over and over. Instead, they move on and make better decisions in > the future. > 9. They Dont Resent Other Peoples Success > Mentally strong people can appreciate and celebrate other peoples > success<http://www.lifehack.org/articles/lifestyle/10-wise-lessons-what-i-wish-i-knew-when-i-was-younger.html> > in > life. They dont grow jealous or feel cheated when others surpass them. > Instead, they recognize that success comes with hard work, and they are > willing to work hard for their own chance at success. > Note: When I had to live in that small plastic bubble in the hospital for > many months when the weekends came most of the people working on the unit > were able to go home for the weekend but I had to remain in that plastic > bubble. That was until I learned that this was my fight not theirs, and I > had to win my fight in order to be able to go home, and I did. Try to > picture having to live in a 5X9 plastic bubble for many months. Your mind > does some strange things but you can concur them if you use your mind in > structured ways. > 10. They Dont Give Up After the First Failure > Mentally strong people dont view failure as a reason to give up. Instead, > they use failure as an opportunity to grow and improve. They are willing to > keep trying until they get it right. > 11. They Dont Fear Alone Time > Mentally strong people can tolerate being alone and they dont fear > silence. They arent afraid to be alone with their thoughts and they can use > downtime to be productive. They enjoy their own company and arent dependent > on others for companionship and entertainment all the time but instead can > be happy > alone<http://www.lifehack.org/articles/communication/how-live-happy-life-alone.html> > . > Note: I wouldn't say that I was happy being all alone but I learned how to > enjoy (for the lack of a better word) myself when being alone. I did some > things to keep my mind occupied and tried to keep busy with doing some > exercise when I was able to. > 12. They Dont Feel the World Owes Them Anything > Mentally strong people dont feel entitled to things in life. They werent > born with a mentality that others would take care of them or that the world > must give them something. Instead, they look for opportunities based on > their own merits. > 13. They Dont Expect Immediate Results > Whether they are working on improving their health or getting a new > business off the ground, mentally strong people dont expect immediate > results. Instead, they apply their skills and time to the best of their > ability and understand that real change takes time. > > And Finally we skip to number 18. > > I hope this can help you to see just how strong you really are. You just > have to dig deep down inside yourself to see. > > Marty > > -- > -- > [CMLHope] > A support group of http://cmlhope.com > ------------------------------------------------- > > You received this message because you are subscribed to the Google Groups > "CMLHope" group. > To post to this group, send email to [email protected] > To unsubscribe from this group, send email to > [email protected] > For more options, visit this group at > http://groups.google.com/group/CMLHope > --- > You received this message because you are subscribed to the Google Groups > "CMLHope" group. > To unsubscribe from this group and stop receiving emails from it, send an > email to [email protected]. > For more options, visit https://groups.google.com/groups/opt_out. > > -- > -- > [CMLHope] > A support group of http://cmlhope.com > ------------------------------------------------- > > You received this message because you are subscribed to the Google Groups > "CMLHope" group. > To post to this group, send email to [email protected] > To unsubscribe from this group, send email to > [email protected] > For more options, visit this group at > http://groups.google.com/group/CMLHope > --- > You received this message because you are subscribed to the Google Groups > "CMLHope" group. > To unsubscribe from this group and stop receiving emails from it, send an > email to [email protected]. > For more options, visit https://groups.google.com/groups/opt_out. > -- -- [CMLHope] A support group of http://cmlhope.com ------------------------------------------------- You received this message because you are subscribed to the Google Groups "CMLHope" group. 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