Great Post, Thanks for sharing, Marti. Richard H.
On Sunday, November 24, 2013 5:17:50 PM UTC-6, wa2yyx wrote: > > > - This is how I became mentally strong. I will be adding some notes > to some of these things. > > > <http://www.google.com/url?q=http%3A%2F%2Fwebmaila.juno.com%2Fwebmail%2Fnew%2F21%3Ffolder%3DInbox%26msgNum%3D00002Qk0%3A001I%255EbYd00002TUp%26count%3D1385331755%26randid%3D1625632958%26attachId%3D0%26isUnDisplayableMail%3Dyes%26blockImages%3D0%26randid%3D1625632958%23&sa=D&sntz=1&usg=AFQjCNErsh8dHlHfTZwpiZgg9946K-HqwQ> > - Having CML is very tough not only on your body but also your mind, > and it is how you decide to use your mind to help your body is what really > counts. I would like to try and teach you some ways that you can help > yourself. This is exactly what I did, and it really helped me through a > very difficult time > > 13 Things Mentally Strong People Dont Do > Mentally strong people have healthy habits. They manage their emotions, > thoughts, and behaviors in ways that set them up for success in life. Check > out these things that mentally strong people dont do so that you too can > become more mentally strong. > 1. They Dont Waste Time Feeling Sorry for Themselves > Mentally strong people dont sit around feeling sorry about their > circumstances or how others have treated them. Instead, they take > responsibility for their role in life and understand that life isnt always > easy or fair. > Note: When I was first diagnoised I was frightened to death. I had and > still have a wife and two children. Throughout my bone marrow transplant I > had a lot of doubt about what my future would bring. I would say to myself > "Why me, what did I do to deserve this, it isn't fair" Then I learned > sometimes life isn't fair but I still had to deal with it. > 2. They Dont Give Away Their Power > They dont allow others to control them, and they dont give someone else > power over them. They dont say things like, My boss makes me feel bad, > because they understand that they are in control over their own emotions > and they have a choice in how they respond. > Note: You have the power of your mind, and you know your body better then > anyone else. So learn how to use your own power. > 3. They Dont Shy Away from Change > Mentally strong people dont try to avoid change. Instead, they welcome > positive change and are willing to be flexible. They understand that change > is inevitable and believe in their abilities to adapt. > 4. They Dont Waste Energy on Things They Cant Control > You wont hear a mentally strong person complaining over lost luggage or > traffic jams. Instead, they focus on what they can control in their lives. > They recognize that sometimes, the only thing they can control is their > Attitude. > Note: remember me speaking about ATTITUDE? > 5. They Dont Worry About Pleasing Everyone > Mentally strong people recognize that they dont need to please everyone > all the time. Theyre not afraid to say no or speak up when necessary. They > strive to be kind and fair, but can handle other people being upset if they > didnt make them happy. > 6. They Dont Fear Taking Calculated Risks > They dont take reckless or foolish risks, but dont mind taking calculated > risks. Mentally strong people spend time weighing the risks and benefits > before making a big decision, and theyre fully informed of the potential > downsides before they take action. > 7. They Dont Dwell on the Past > Mentally strong people dont waste time dwelling on the past and wishing > things could be different. They acknowledge their past and can say what > theyve learned from it. However, they dont constantly relive bad > experiences or fantasize about the glory days. Instead, they live for the > present and plan for the future. > 8. They Dont Make the Same Mistakes Over and Over > Mentally strong people accept responsibility for their behavior and learn > from their past mistakes. As a result, they dont keep repeating those > mistakes over and over. Instead, they move on and make better decisions in > the future. > 9. They Dont Resent Other Peoples Success > Mentally strong people can appreciate and celebrate other peoples > success<http://www.google.com/url?q=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.lifehack.org%2Farticles%2Flifestyle%2F10-wise-lessons-what-i-wish-i-knew-when-i-was-younger.html&sa=D&sntz=1&usg=AFQjCNESwCtAZtOsjOICIlk0HHE8Na3lsA> > in > life. They dont grow jealous or feel cheated when others surpass them. > Instead, they recognize that success comes with hard work, and they are > willing to work hard for their own chance at success. > Note: When I had to live in that small plastic bubble in the hospital for > many months when the weekends came most of the people working on the unit > were able to go home for the weekend but I had to remain in that plastic > bubble. That was until I learned that this was my fight not theirs, and I > had to win my fight in order to be able to go home, and I did. Try to > picture having to live in a 5X9 plastic bubble for many months. Your mind > does some strange things but you can concur them if you use your mind in > structured ways. > 10. They Dont Give Up After the First Failure > Mentally strong people dont view failure as a reason to give up. Instead, > they use failure as an opportunity to grow and improve. They are willing to > keep trying until they get it right. > 11. They Dont Fear Alone Time > Mentally strong people can tolerate being alone and they dont fear > silence. They arent afraid to be alone with their thoughts and they can use > downtime to be productive. They enjoy their own company and arent dependent > on others for companionship and entertainment all the time but instead can > be happy > alone<http://www.google.com/url?q=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.lifehack.org%2Farticles%2Fcommunication%2Fhow-live-happy-life-alone.html&sa=D&sntz=1&usg=AFQjCNGuoUUOEEIZwbrVQokhGBElVB4-Ug> > . > Note: I wouldn't say that I was happy being all alone but I learned how to > enjoy (for the lack of a better word) myself when being alone. I did some > things to keep my mind occupied and tried to keep busy with doing some > exercise when I was able to. > 12. They Dont Feel the World Owes Them Anything > Mentally strong people dont feel entitled to things in life. They werent > born with a mentality that others would take care of them or that the world > must give them something. Instead, they look for opportunities based on > their own merits. > 13. They Dont Expect Immediate Results > Whether they are working on improving their health or getting a new > business off the ground, mentally strong people dont expect immediate > results. Instead, they apply their skills and time to the best of their > ability and understand that real change takes time. > > And Finally we skip to number 18. > > I hope this can help you to see just how strong you really are. You just > have to dig deep down inside yourself to see. > > Marty > -- -- [CMLHope] A support group of http://cmlhope.com ------------------------------------------------- You received this message because you are subscribed to the Google Groups "CMLHope" group. 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